Is It Really Possible To Create The Change You Want In Your Life?
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This is part one of a series on how to create positive change in your life based on what has worked for me, what hasn’t, and what I’m currently learning. Rather than write one of my usual 4000+ word monster articles I’m breaking it down for you into more manageable chunks.
This is going to be a very important series if you’re ready to arm yourself with some powerful tools in the battle for happiness, success and contentment in your life, so get ready. Here we go…
This Is Who I Am
As a blogger you are at times more open with your thoughts and feelings online than you might be in person, even with your closest friends and family. Despite knowing that thousands of people read this blog every day, I find it easier and I’m much more succinct, when I share my thoughts and ideas here, at least when it comes to certain subjects.
One of the wonderful, if surprising at first, experiences as a result of being open with people through a blog is that eventually you gain some kind of notoriety for being good at something. When I started Entrepreneurs-Journey I wanted to share my business experiences simply for the sake of sharing and to see whether other people found what I had to say of value. Some people did find what I had to say valuable, so I kept saying things, and more and more people found me and started listening.
Eventually my perception online became that of an “authority” in my niche, at least to a small sub-segment of the population. I became a “someone” rather than an audience, in one little corner of the universe, in this case as a blogger who talks about entrepreneurship, marketing, and personal development.
This is a great event for all kinds of reasons, but the most important reason, and be sure to underline this, is that with authority, more people actually read what I write. With the attention that authority gives me, I enjoy the privilege and honor of being able to influence people. This is power and it’s something you have to be very careful with as power is trust, and you don’t want to abuse people’s trust.
What’s a little strange for me is that I’ve not really done anything to enjoy my position other than tell you what I think and do. I haven’t been officially trained to do this in any way, I didn’t go to school to learn to blog (I started one instead), nor was I instructed along the way about the right way to do things. In reality I’m pretty much exactly the same as you are right now, except I’ve spent the last five years sharing aspects of my life through this blog over and over again, week after week.
The Challenge That Is Changing Yourself
One of the most interesting subjects, one that I’d like to tackle with you now, is the concept of whether it is really possible to change, especially in a proactive, self-determined manner. This isn’t about fate or destiny, this is going after and getting what you want.
When I say change, I mean real change. I mean the kind of change that takes you from where you are now, to where you really want to be, although using a phrase that relates transition to a destination or a time isn’t quite complete. What I’m really talking about when I say “be” is the state you are in. It’s the change of state, the way you think and consequently act and thus experience, that I refer to when I mean change.
This is the kind of change where you feel like you’re not the same person you were before, and everything around you has changed as a result of this. You might be living in a different place, associating with different people, you might have a different lover, or several, you might be financially wealthier, or maybe you’ve lost or gained weight, or you no longer do something you wanted to stop, like drinking, or smoking.
All these things are symptomatic of change, to say they are the change isn’t quite accurate. It was something about you on the inside that changed, that caused a physical change to manifest in reality. It was YOU who changed.
When you experience this kind of change you know it, because when you realize the change you stop yourself and go “wow, I’m actually feeling what my previous self wanted to feel oh-so-much back then“. I’m living what I previously wanted to live. I am what my past self wanted to be in the future, if we include the element of time. I am now where I wanted to be back when I was somewhere else, if we include the element of place.
It’s this idea of change, and it’s change for the better that we want, or at least what we perceive as desirably better today (it may not actually turn out to be so, but we assume it is for now since we don’t know yet), that intrigues me. The idea that you are in charge of your own “personal development” is powerful. Imagine being in charge of claiming what you want in your life?
Yeah, it sounds good doesn’t it, but let’s state a truth – change is hard.
Significant change takes effort, and often so much effort that by the time we get what we wanted or arrive where we wanted to be, our value system has changed too, so you may not even want what you were working so hard to acquire. That I believe is a clever built-in motivation tool nature has given us so that we’re always striving for more. If we got everything we wanted instantly and easily then the value wouldn’t be there and we’d stop striving to make ourselves better.
Consequently, the lessons we eventually take away from any dramatic change in our lives are these, which many people come to understand as universal principles if they live long enough…
- We should live in the moment,
- enjoy the journey,
- understand that what we want isn’t what we really want and,
- that we will always want more until we decide we don’t.
Tricky isn’t it.
Is Change Even Possible?
I remember as a child listening to my mother on the rare occasion she hosted a party at her house. My mother is not the most social person and while she loves sharing ideas with other people, she’s closer to hermit than socialite. That doesn’t stop her from talking her mouth off when she’s had a glass of wine and the people around her are saying things she feels a need to respond to (nowadays she doesn’t need any alcohol to get her started!).
One of her favorite subjects as I recall, is whether change is even possible in the first place. She steadfastly believes people can change on a fundamental level, and we are talking about the tiniest of individual personality details, all the way up to global consciousness. Some people didn’t agree with her, they argued that no one could truly change, which is why as humans we will always have the problems we have, in some shape or form.
I remember listening to her passionately explaining her viewpoint on this subject, although from my recollection as my mother’s son, I felt more uncomfortable that here was my usually soft-spoken mother becoming more animated than usual, resulting in me wanting to be somewhere else (parents are, like, so embarrassing!). I generally preferred to find a way to be in another place when adults where drinking and talking loudly, but no doubt my mother’s viewpoint on change has impacted my own perception of whether change is possible, so credit where credit is due.
I Haven’t Quite Mastered This One…
As I stated at the start of this article, sometimes as a blogger you have to get personal. It’s one of the most powerful tools we have to engage our audience. However, in the case of this subject, I have to admit I don’t feel quite as comfortable as I’d like to when talking about my own perception of how to change.
Normally, as the authority, it’s smart for me to assume a tone in my blog posts that I know what I’m talking about, and to a certain degree with many subjects that relate to marketing, I do, at least comparing my own skill level and knowledge with my audience’s. I know just enough more than my readers so that I can provide value.
Marketing in so many ways is a science. Talking about how to make money, or relating a story of how you did something to get a result is simple enough. The concepts we are dealing with there are straight forward, like pieces of a puzzle you just have to arrange in the right order.
Concepts like change are much more fluid and complex. Most personal development subjects are that way because we’re dealing with some of the fundamentals of life. As a result, I’m best teaching by revealing the aspects of my own journey, even though I may not have figured it all out. Writing an article like this isn’t just for you, it also helps me, as I come to a greater realization of my own place by sharing with you. As they say, the best way to learn is to teach.
Here, discussing how you can go about changing your life for the better, I feel the need to make note of where I’m personally at with the topic because, well, I’m not quite there yet. At least I’m not where I want to be, so there is still more change to make.
I expect this is likely the state I will remain in for most of my life because as far as I can tell, no human ever masters change or remains content with how things are permanently, unless they are enlightened or dead. I don’t exist in a perpetual state of enlightenment (nor am I convinced that’s what life is all about if you consider the practical world, not just the spiritual world, although they can overlap if you become self aware enough), so I can only imagine what it is like.
For the sake of making this applicable to you, I’m going to assume you still have a strong desire to make changes in your life too and you’re not quite enlightened yet either. At least we’re coming from the same place 
.
This is part of the reason why this subject is so compelling. Being comfortable that life IS change is one thing, and I’m all for going with the flow, but taking a proactive interest in determining what changes in your life is a different story. You want to be the driver in your life, even if you can never be sure where the road is taking you or what you will pass through on the way.
Coming Up Next: What I Can Teach You Now
Coming up in the next part in the series I’m going to review what I know so far in terms of how I’ve been able to realize growth and change in my own life. There are some very strong repeating themes in this, and I’m seeing a pattern that I’m still trying to come to terms with myself.
If you want to know what that pattern is, read on to part two of this series –
What I Can Teach You About Getting What You Want
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I believe I am changing!
For 29 years I’ve worked for large corporate companies. Working long, long hours but very much enjoying the work and monthly paycheck.
Then 3 years ago, I decided I wanted something else and turned my attention to making my income on-line and via blogging. I started my new on-line business whilst still working full-time.
Working evenings and weekends on my own business – making little money at first…but I knew I end an end game. To leave the corporate world!
I achieved that 6 months ago. I left the corporate world to work on my own on-line business. Now I earn a lot less (but working on it, to make it more!) but I am my boss and I work when I want.
In fact, a couple months after leaving the corporate world a friend contacted me and asked if I wanted some freelance work, again, working for a large corporate. The money on offer was a crazy amount – i.e. very, very high. The job was mine!
I turned it down!
I’m changing…
Andrew
You were willing to gamble. That is a great starting point. Most of us get stuck in our comfort zones till it becomes a noose around our necks.
Hi Andrew
Firstly let me congratulate you … making that leap is not easy … it is something that I have done and now am in the process of doing again .. I was working in finance and hated it .. so in the evenings and weekends I taught myself about web development .. about 18 months ago I made the leap into this field at a much lower income ( something that all my family thought was crazy ) now I have a job as the web developer in a bigger company and earning a much a good wage .. I still work at night, this time to set up my own online business .. hard work but worth it in the end …
I sold my amusement park within the last six months due to being sick of lawyers and insurance companies. I am trying to make the jump into the world of online business and have a few small websites to learn about the web before making the big jump. I would love to hear any advice that could be given to me on how to promote my sites without spending all of my earnings. Right now only using google adwords but having a hard time making money this way.
I’m trying to change
Peter
Hi Yaro,
It’s a great idea that you’re shortening your posts and turning them into a series.
I think choosing how to change is a great skill to have. In some ways you can be proactive and in other ways you have to be reactive to external changes. I’m finding now that as I choose how to change myself, I feel in control and more confident about my life.
Hi Yaro,
Thank you for this great article about ‘Change’. Change is a blessing that I am learning to enjoy.
I am grateful for the gift of change. Without change, I would never be able to grow, learn new things, accomplish my goals, or look forward to anything different than what I’ve got. Even though I may resist change at times, I am learning to enjoy its possibilities.
Even when change is forced upon me and brings challenges, it opens new doors of opportunity. I now realise that a change that seems devastating can actually propel me into a better life!
Change is one of the blessings that come with the power of choice. I can choose to leave things the way they are, or change them to something better.
Change allows me to learn and grow. As I strive to achieve my goals, I embrace the changes in my life that bring me ever closer to success. With each change, I become more knowledgeable, stronger, and more confident that I can handle whatever life may bring.
I certainly hope that more people will embrace changes in their lives to improve their lives.
I’m looking forward to your next post already.
Cheers~
Mark
Hi, Yaro,
This is an interesting article, especially in light of the fact that I very recently retired from my full time job, and have just started a blog of my own. That’s quite a bit of change in just the last few months. Thanks for thinking of this and sharing it with us.
The starting point for the process is the willingness to change. The older one gets, the more difficult it becomes and it stands to reason that the younger generation, particularly the present one, is willing and so we see so much of constant change. I look forward to the rest of your posts on this fascinating subject.
I’m sure you have heard the expression that “your outer world is a reflection of your inner self”. Everything we experience in life, whether it be in business, health, relationships, is all a symptom of what is going on inside ourselves. Start focusing on making changes within yourself and results will happen rapidly. Great post, great insights Yaro.
Good post Yaro,
I just thought that having a blog is one the change i am happy at and i am sure that this change will lead to another great change in my life. I am just happy to see what is going to happen to me in the future for being a blogger, because i think i am destined to be a blogger.
Daniel Likin
Yaro-
I have to say I am really enjoying these “inspirational” posts you have been incorporating into your blog lately.
I do believe “change” is a constant in one’s life but it is up to the person on whether to take the road to changing or staying where they are. I know a couple of people who have not changed at all since I have known them and they are the unhappiest people I know, unfortunately. Granted, not all change is good BUT in order to grow and experience new things, you have to give in to change.
The key- I find- is to have goals which provide the change(s) you want, whether it be physical, monetary, etc. These goals act as a map which help guide you to the changes you want. But like you said, the changes you want will change for whatever reason. However, there are universal changes which everyone wants such as happiness, companionship, love, and such.
Great post, Yaro! Looking forward to the next one!
Wesley Craig Green
Great idea for new topics. To be a successful entrepreneur, we often have to change our personal habits and behavior. Without change it is easy to get stuck in a rut with little progress being made. I look forward to the rest of this series.
I agree that change is hard. Most of us can probably think of some things about ourselves that we would like to change, but actually making those changes is another story. Changing yourself may be one of the biggest challenges you face. You have to change the way you are inside and how you naturally react.
Yaro, it’s very easy to create positive change in your life, but maybe I say that because I already know the answer. One first has to define the change that is needed, then break it down to smaller attainable tasks. Is the goal to lose 20 pounds of weight or does it involve the fundamentals of life. Both can be equally easy or difficult to accomplish and each have very different methods and tasks involved to achieve the change.
We’re all born in darkness and live accordingly but we are all presented with many chances to be enlightened and to accept The Light. If we decide to reject then we have to fill that void with other things such as the pursuit of wealth, power and pleasure. Basically anything else, in order fill our time and desire.
Sometimes as a blogger you have to get personal, which is fair enough. I hope that you will allow me the same. Yaro, use your intelligence to change the fundamentals of your life and start by choosing the right authority figure to follow.
Ten years ago I would have never thought that I’d be writing something like this, since I was still walking in darkness but thank God my life turned out the way it did. I’m looking forward to seeing the result in your life’s journey Yaro, just as I know you are!
Dennis
Hi Yaro,
You definately have me leaning in and I’m looking forward to the rest of the series. Change is one of my favorite topics–whether I like it or not.
Thanks for this!
Jill
Jill’s blog is an agent of change.
Yaro,
I recently was sent a quote by Wayne Dyer: “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” A corollary to that would be: “When you change the way you look at yourself, the self you look at changes.”
It’s so important to begin by changing the way you SEE yourself, if you want to CHANGE yourself, in my opinion. Isn’t this exactly the way positive affirmations work? You convince your subconscious that you are what you want to be and you will become what you want to be. It opens the door to real change by getting rid of your limiting beliefs.
Great post! I intend to make a habit of taking a few minutes to read your refreshing blog posts from now on.
Owen
Change is Good! Thank you so very much for starting this series, and how timely it is for me. I just took the plunge and started a blog on saving money. It is 2 days old. So lots to do there, and lots to learn. Thanks so very much for all you do to help others, Diana
Great post Yaro. I agree completely with the universal principles you outline. I’ve come to similar conclusions myself – I also find that when I live my life in alignment with these universal principles, things just seem to happen for me and change becomes so much easier. Of course, the challenge is to live in alignment with these principles which is easier said than done.
Cheers, Niro
I love the topic of personal development and change. I don’t think any of us are ever completely “there” in our lives and that’s a good thing. We set a goal, achieve it and then set another – always striving, growing.
When I’m stuck and not moving forward on something I want to do, I remember a quote similar to the Wayne Dyer one that goes something like “if you change your thinking, you’ll change your feelings which will change your actions and your actions will change your life.” That conscious thinking-feeling shift seems to work for me.
Great intro post. Looking forward to the next installment!
Hi Yaro,
Great post,I have been changing for years but never really seem to get where I really want be, like it’s a great allusion. I’ve been stuck the last couple of years, I’ve recently started blogging to try and make a change. Looking forward to your next post,
Michael.
I have realized something very life changing in my quest for seeking the truth. What truth is that? I’ve been relentlessly searching for the truth of how to be happy and discover why I was put here on this earth. I have to say that the truth isn’t always what we want to hear or see, but it is the one thing that we most often deceive ourselves over.
I liken change to the journey we take when chasing a rainbow.
The rainbow is like the person we would like to be, it promises so much, but its the things we think of and notice as we run towards it and the laughter we remember and learn from.
I have only been blogging for a short time and it has really bought home to me my priorities, writing can be like that, especially when I feel responsible for what I write and for my readers.
Not an easy one, I want to believe people can change, but I don’t.. I believe that each of us is, at the core, static, constant.. We can change the more superficial aspects of our characters, but the foundation of it all will always remain the same.. Negative? maybe but it’s what I’ve always observed to be true
Hi Taro. I’ve been following your blog actually. I am enjoying reading your posts. Anyway, changes occur in some points in our lives, whether it’s for the better or for worse. What is important is the change you made for the better to improve productively and make life worthy.
The best way to learn is to teach is so true!
Great post Yaro, Keep it comin, this is going to be an AMAZING series!
I haven’t always been comfortable with change. It can be scary; The unknown, the “what ifs”, the getting uncomfortable. I tended to avoid change.
However, life can sometimes have other ideas. I was forced through a major change a couple of years ago (an unwanted divorce I didn’t see coming). This wasn’t so much a slight change but more of a rug-out-from-beneath-my-feet-life-as-I-knew-it-obliterated kind of change. Uncomfortable wasn’t the half of it!
What I didn’t know at the time though, was what an amazing journey this change would uncover. Sometime during it all, I made the conscious decision to use what I was going through as a platform to create a life I really wanted, start living my purpose and use it as a new start (this followed my Dad saying to me, “the only revenge is to live well.”) I packed my bags, left Australia and started a new life in a little town called Banff, in the middle of the Canadian Rockies.
The people I’ve met, the experiences I’ve had and the lessons I’ve learned simply couldn’t have happened had I not gone through this major change. It was a painful, eye opening, exhilarating, phenomenal, tough, fun and life changing experience.
My take on change now is vastly different. I’m far more welcoming of it. I figure that if I can get through my divorce, I can get through pretty much anything. Besides, with the rewards and outcomes I’ve been given out of it, why wouldn’t I embrace change.
Great post Yaro. Very thought provoking. Thank you.
Hi yaro,
what a great story you have here. I believe, everyone, every person
in this world can change. But the question is, do they want to change?
Most of the successful entrepreneurs nowadays,
they learn from their past and change for the better.
They know that, by changing how they see things and
try to make it as a challenge rather than turn them down.
Just have a look at Barack Obama,
president of United states.
previously during his teenager time,
he used to take drugs and alcohol
And see him now, the most powerful man in earth!
No body can ever say No if he say something.
And the words that he always used during his campaign
“Change that we can believe”
Frankly speaking, i’m not from USA
but the “Change” spirit that Obama shows has eventually
effect many others in this world.
And make we believe that, YES WE CAN!
WE CAN CHANGE!
again, the question is,
do we want to change? Is there any obstacles that need to be overcome?
certain people, they just give up and turn their life to fate.
For them, change will not always give them good result.
They prefer give up rather then trying.
So, my friend,
change the way you see thing,
it will make you life better,
your family, your income,
Thanks.
Love your articles, and the way you think and express yourself Yaro. On change; I’m always working on it. Kind of like the Japanese concept, “Kaizen” – continuing to look for improvement. Motivation as related to change: I have a theory about “comfort”, and “being uncomfortable.” Some super-successful people are uncomfortable with being less than the best, or the top. It can even become neurotic behavior, in that they are more driven by the discomfort of not reaching the top, than they are by losing the love of their family. I believe we can learn the balance of stepping out of our comfort zone, seeking continual improvement, and yet still enjoy the journey, happy being ourself. We will succeed, and we will fail; neither is a permanent condtion, just life experiences.
Change, Change, Change, so hard yet such an easy thought. Nothing better than stepping out of our comfort zone and experiencing a whole new world. I look forward to following the blog and watching the progress.
Making a possitive change it self is greatly deals with attitudes. One who can control and adopt his attitudes according to the situation, can easily make his mind to a possitive change. Possitive change in attitudes is possitive change in life.
Hi Yaro,
This is a wonderful article. Change – it’s a great subject and I am glad you have said something about it!
You mentioned enlightenment which I think is relevant. I like you am not in an enlightened state but I do feel that I am more “enlightened” now then I was years ago.
I guess really what change is about is the willingness to move forward. To want to learn more, grow more and do more.
it’s funny because when I think about change I have a very idealistic view on it. I will say in a conversation “yes change is the key etc etc” but then when someone in my life asks for a change my instant feeling is….NO. And that I think is what most of us do. We have an inbuilt voice that doesn’t want to change.
It’s those who realise this is just a reaction to ignore and make the change anyway.
But also, should we always change when others want us to? I think that might be a good question. If you let others make changes in your life rather than you making changes for specific reason then are they in control?
Most likely. Life does that to us unless we have a reason to make changes.
Perhaps that is for another post!
Anyway, I am new member of blog Mastermind, great course! Big changes to my blog and the way I do this online thing!
Thanks
Matt
Hi Yaro
I’m just putting this out there right now. I’ve been working with people with special needs and refugees developing drumming programs within the schools/agencies. I’ve been drumming for 23 years and working with schools/agencies for 10. My big idea for funding is to have 1000 people supporting the development with $10 per month. I have also thought about doing an internet campaign for fundraising.
I would be willing to share anything that comes in and work to add as much visible value to the people contributing as well I’ve registered http://www.dnarhythms.com in order to share the development and progress. Would this be of interest to you? The reason why I’m asking this is because it will take me awhile to find 1000 locally committed people and require initial funding. I’m not interested in grants/loans as they limited the actions of the organization. Thoughts?
I could develop a video drumming workshop to go with it and combine this with focusing intention and attention etc. Just thinking out loud. Thank you for reading this.
Chris Scholl
Hi Yaro!
Found it quite ironic to read this today…
I’ve been out of work for a few months now and buried my head in the sand about all manner of things. Today after a heart to heart with my girlfriend last night I rang up a debt who’s letters I had been ignoring and started repayments (only small for now, but it is a start) and I also organised a free face-to-face meeting with a free careers advice service for adults (so I can look at further education either in marketing or computing).
To round it off I also checked an affiliate account relating to my blog and found I had made a sale. A tiny amount that wouldn’t pay for a pint of milk, but it all starts somewhere.
Small changes are happening and my next step is to have a positive attitude and find a job that will support me so I’m ready to take a giant leap into the unknown in the future.
Kind regards
Stuart
Great post Yaro!
I find that you start to change when you change the way you look at something. Once your pereception changes everything else starts to change too.
I love reading your posts and all of the comments that they provoke. It’s great that you are bringing together a community of like-minded entrepreneurs who are willing to constantly challenge themselves and are not happy with staying in their comfort zone.
Keep up the fabulous work
Anne
Awesome post Yaro!
Thanks for the great content. It is very inspiring and encouraging.
I have been looking at the same topic over the past few weeks from the view of Facing Challenges in our Life and the process we go through which ultimately leads to change. Look forward to following along in the series.
Keep it coming.
God Bless,
I am so there. As I said in my blog…I am under construction. In my blog and my life. In spite of, or maybe because of my mental health issues I am aware that “I don’t exist in a perpetual state of enlightenment (nor am I convinced that’s what life is all about if you consider the practical world, not just the spiritual world, although they can overlap if you become self aware enough), so I can only imagine what it is like.”
For me they do overlap and they are in congruent. What I am being taught now at 44, does not match with my life experience. The changing is going on anyway, like it or not. I feel out of control just like you said,
“the state you are in. It’s the change of state, the way you think and consequently act and thus experience, that I refer to when I mean change.”
I take issue with the truth that, “You want to be the driver in your life, even if you can never be sure where the road is taking you or what you will pass through on the way.”
The fact that where I am going and how I get there is none of my business makes me unhappy and uncomfortable.
I would really like to explore this with you, so I will continue to read and comment. Maybe you will comment back.
Connie A Vaughn
PS – Is it bad form to post your article on my blog and comment on it and my own experiences?
PSS – Why is there no place for my avatar? (gravatar?)
Wow it’s so hard to follow up with a good comment after all that Yaro, you really do have a great way with words. It was great to hear the story about your mom.
I’ve made some personal changes in my life, mainly small things and nothing significant that has been ever changing. Perhaps it is because I am confident with my current self.
Till then,
Jean
Your Message Hi,
Love the comments… you really got it going!! Congrats!!
“Change is the most constant aspect of our life”. Every change comes with an opportunity…. we only have to be able to see it and seize/live it. We sometimes get lost in the blur of emotions and adjustments which comes with change and let the opportunity pass us by. Then the universe has to bring one more change to give you that opportunity again!!
Learning to accept change by being positive and trusting that the universe is for your good and giving it time to make that change positive… helps us to welcome change.
When I look back, every good thing I possess and feel now was a result of a change activated by either rejection, loss, pain which I survived through positive thoughts and belief. Wow! even I did not realize that !!
Yaro but we are in a continous change, as our needs or our goals are changing. And if you look in the blog business in order to stay on line the goals need to be improved everytime
Nice post Yaro, thanks for your excellent information. looking forward for a sharing information with you.
Yes…change is hard! I love the point that you make that once you achieve what you want that your value system changes and you want something more or different.
That is the catch 22. The point should be to be happy with your self even while changing… Like you said live in the moment, but never settle.
I am working through a pretty rough time in my life. I am trying to make it online as a Internet marketer and I only have a few unemployment checks still coming.
Nice posts and you made a new fan out of me!
-Todd
“…not the most social person and while she loves sharing ideas with other people, she’s closer to hermit than socialite. That doesn’t stop her from talking her mouth off when she’s had a glass of wine and the people around her are saying things she feels a need to respond to (nowadays she doesn’t need any alcohol to get her started!).”
Haha I felt as though I were reading a description of myself when you gave this little vignette of your mother !!
Enjoyed this blog Yaro and will read the next two installments.
Warm regards,
C.
Hey Yaro,
I think that change is inevitable, we all come to face the change at some phase of our life. And I agree with you that a willing change is really hard to make.
And when you have a mindset to make a change, nothing can stop you, but in this critical phase you need to have to keep yourself going with a willing spirit.
Anyways I must say that this is going to be a best series and I am waiting for the next lesson.
Hi Yaro,
Change is necessary if we want different results than what we’re getting now.
But it is certainly not easy to implement even if we know what to change.
I was surprised at how you inserted enlightenment into your post but quickly backed out of it. I know it is very interesting subject but almost impossible to cover or even talk about sensibly without people’s eyes glazing over.
Better stick to practical side of life for now.
I will read the posts continuing on this theme with great interest.
I want you to know that when I post comments on your blog they don’t always appear.
That is fine if you reject them. But I think there could be some other issues.
Because of that I now save the comment I give into a text file in case it gets lost because I tend to pour my soul into the comments I give and don’t want to waste energy.
So I thought I’d try to post the comment again and your Word Press showed a window saying that I had already said that. That means my post is somewhere but not showing here.
I do wonder about this because I see comments posted after the date I posted mine.
And now to your following post about change.
Vance
This is a great article i need to apply this to my life to change and get where i really want to be =]
Your Message I felt good reading this article because it reflects a lot of my own ideals. I am not an established authority about the subject that I write about as yet but reading this article reminded me that if I continue to cultivate my ideas around my niche that eventually people will come to recognize and value my point view. If your intent was to inspire then you did the job because I felt what you said with my heart and inspired me enough to let you know that. So thank you keep up the inspirational type of articles because its good for my soul.
Couldnt have said better! love this post, its a good inspiration. I guess i am who i am and if i am not happy with my current situation, i would rather implement the new better things to make my life better than changing it as a whole
Paramahansa Yogananda said in one of his books.
“Thought is the Matrix of all Creation, thought creates everything”
Therefore if you “think” that you can change, and have the courage to “believe” that you can change and take the appropriate action, then it will happen, as Energy Follows Thought.
Yes, It is really possible but it is not very easy to change our lifes.
You were willing to gamble. That is a great starting point. Most of us get stuck in our comfort zones till it becomes a noose around our necks.