I am aware that it may take a long time, but I know that taking it one day at a time would be ideal.

Thank you so much!

This is very powerful and encouraging. Thank you!!

I decided to follow your self development series and got some good points to ponder. I think I really got to see the book you’ve mentioned. I always thought I’m a positive person but I got a feeling I had to learn deeper about the concept of optimism myself.

Yaro – so glad I dug around and found this series. Really enjoying them.

“Chances are if you are reading this blog, one of the things you are attempting to do now is make money online, and you’re not there yet, so you’re forced to do things to make money that you don’t like (e.g. a job), and you feel bad about it. This is a classic situation where you need to push through and keep going, even in the face of emotional adversity, and as I outlined in the article, often simply making the decision to act even when you don’t feel like it, will pull you out of the negative mood.”

–[ self gratitude ]– keep it coming Yaro..

Deny

A key statement to keep in mind at all times although perhaps you need self-awareness before a mindset can be changed and thus goals achieved.

Long, long ago I was a pretty contented woman and happy with contentment. Despite the occasional bouts of temper and worry, life was good. I was an optimist (or so I thought when I thought about it).

As life moved on and things happened – as they always do, I was rudely awoken from my dream. For as I look back over the years I found that I excelled at dreaming not at living. And life no longer was good. Dang!

And darn that dream I mentioned in my comments from article 1, for it made me realize things. Not so good things.

I finally sought counseling and learned to pay a little more attention to the “3 Clares”. Initially, I only thought there was two of us living inside this one body but alas… there are three. Clare1 who was an optimist or more likely she was a pessimist in disguise. Clare2 who hated Clare1. And, Clare3 who quite actively, to Clare1′s shame, disliked another intensely.

If there are any psychiatrists reading this – I am not insane. At least I don’t think so. No, I’m pretty sure I’m not. And besides, I’ve already sought help – so don’t be getting any ideas!

So back to my opening statement that you made – self awareness. Achieved through congruency, perception and work ethic – perhaps. Four years later, while I may not be much closer to where the dream said to go, the journey has been eye-opening to say the least.

To my 3 Clares becoming 1, I continue to read your quite interesting articles of change!

Clare1 speaking

I am living the changes you describe, and finding the answers and confirmation and amazing results because as you say – Your thoughts are choices of perception that you are in control of entirely – The difference is amazing when we internalise that.

I’m definitely going to write about your post – there’s lots of points I want to elaborate on as it pertains to me.

Looking forward to the next one.

Good job!

You mentioned Buddhism, are you a yoga practitioner as well? Much of what you say can be construed by yoga psychology although many Internet marketers today consider this to fall under the spectrum of “personal development”. Yes, it’s true that we choose to think and feel a certain way but what happens is that we become negatively conditioned and that creates patterns and tendencies which are hard to break.

First step, like you said is to observe and become “conscious” of these patterns if we are to first deconstruct and then reconstruct more positive thoughts about ourselves and our world. Many of these patterns for most of us run pretty deep and are not so easily changed, even when we’re aware of them. Again, the first step toward transformation of the negative thoughts are indeed “self-awareness”. The rest comes after.

“If you choose not to decide you still have made a choice”~Neil Pert

In the main I view life in a positive way, always looking for the good out of something bad (you know the head in the sand stuff!!), but it does make me feel better. However from time to time reality hits you – especially when you are facing financial hardship, or worse still when you or people close to you, are facing a serious or life-threatening medical condition. I always think to myself that when negative things have happened to me, that there is always someone else in the world who is far worse off than me. They may be living through a natural disaster like the tsunami, flooding or fire or even through war. It makes my issues pale into insignificance and teaches me that I need to be very grateful for what I have in life and that there are always solutions to problems or challenges, but sometimes we just have to dig a bit deeper to find them. We then have to figure out a way to make the necessary changes in ourselves to kickstart them to happen.

Thanks for your thought provoking ideas. Please keep them coming.

These are really wonderful links that can help you out greatly in motivating yourself and making the desired change.

I also believe that success will not come to you, you have to go after it. And here “conviction of courage” comes to play.

These links are really influencing and worth noting.

Till then,

Jean

Think positive, you can always find the opposite to bad emotions or attitudes.

Your information is always great but I hope that one day I can do for someone what you did for me! And in writing that I see how I have done that. Karma <3

Thank YOU!

- Justen Justen
Author | Male Online Lifestyle Magazine.

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