I mean, I’m getting on for 55 and still kind of peering around
in a bleary-eyed way…

Makes terrific sense, all of it.

Thinking about success patterns, which I need to find as I move along in this path, I think it is important to consciously take the ideas we got from other people and mold these ideas into ones that we can apply in our own lives. For me, it takes a lot of hours of thinking deeply about these ideas, but I find comfort in the thought that it’s not impossible to succeed in it.

I look at successful people and always want it now and figure if they can do it so can I – they are not any smarter than I am – maybe they know the right people or just got lucky (wink wink) It happens every day. But success is not created over night. And that is why I have to try and do just one thing (at a minimum) every day to move forward with my dreams. Fortunately if you have a good support systems of even ONE person (my sister) it can make all the difference in the world. After my big loss I wanted to quit but then I talked to her and she said “so what you can go back to something you don’t like?” Point well taken. I am in it for the long haul and it is what it is. I talk to alot of people, try to make the best choices I can with the info I have at the time and always move foreward. It is like training my young horse, many times he responds not as I would like him to but as my trainer says, as long as he is moving forward you are good. And so am I. Hopefully someday I will be able to say I am where I want to be and get this – it is not all monetary. Just the freedom to do what I really want to do in life and believe I that is what I was put on this earth for.

“Everything you do influences other people, just as what other people do influences you” This is so true, in every aspect of life. Just take a look around at how you interact with others and the reactions you get..

more and more interesting..

Deny

This has come at the right time for me, I started with Become a Blogger end Dec 2008 and moved in leaps and bounds – building, topic what topic, wrote about my life and then hit a brick wall.

The brick wall is still there, but thanks to the forum I have met a “local” business woman who is putting me on the path with perseverance and direction with her marketing background. Whenever I stray I get put back on track – with the comment “have you read..” we are both members of Blog Master Mind and Membership Site Mastermind, it is always something from one of the sites.

I have some “p’s” and “q’s” to get in order but these three write up’s, Dan’s comment moving from Zimbabwe and starting from scratch have given me the get up and go again.

Thanks for all those inspirational notes, it helps to know you are not alone, especially if you doubt yourself and your abilities. We all have something to offer, it is to find the passion and overcome the fears.

Cheers and thanks to one and all, this has been a great post.

Thank you..i’ll always waiting another article from you….

You wrote:
“You don’t know what you’re good at or “meant to do” or how on earth it could help you make money, or if it even should”

It would be great to see you expand on this point more. I find that it’s easy to pin point things ‘you’re good at’ but often those things are not fueled by any real passion. I have stumbled across many people who cannot seem to recognise ‘what they’re meant to do.’ I know highly qualified editors, vets, accountants who are very ‘good at’ their vocations but there is no passion. I would be interested to hear your take on how people can get sight of their passion/’what they’re meant to do.”

Fantastic series Yaro, thank you.

I like this one. You talk about things that you don’t like or are not good at, and I automatically relate to doing my accounts. I hate the thought of it, but when I actually get myself into it, I don’t mind doing it and even quite enjoy it, especially when I get no interruptions. As they say it’s all mind over matter. Take care of the mind and rest doesn’t matter.

Decisions, good, bad or indifferent we all need to make them in life. We do have choices and that’s fantastic.

Thanks for sharing this post Yaro

You are NOT alone. I master the art of complicating my life and then getting frustrated. Then the voices in my head start to chatter and then that really drives me nuts and I start second guessing myself.

I’m now learning every day how to make this simple and reach milestones that will lead to more success.

Yaro, I don’t always read full posts, but this was a great way to start my day!

Krizia

I believe there is a balance to be had, and you’re right, most people shoot way too low, but I do think having pie in the sky goals can be more dangerous than good because it may result in constant failure destroying any self esteem you ever had.

The kind of limitations I was referring to are things that are impossible to change, or at least the process of change is so drastic or just plain silly (like a tall man cutting off his legs because he wants to be shorter) that’s it not reasonable to try and make it reality.

This applies differently if you actually intend to go after something vs. just believing you could if you wanted to. There’s a difference in believing you could be an olympic gold medalist at age 60 if you really wanted to versus the kind of belief where you actually try and do it. Optimism and realism need to be both present in healthy doses in my opinion or you are in for a world of disappointment if you define your happiness based on achieving what you set out to.