Francesco

I realize that I have been worrying about problems, but they’re not really true. Most of them are about material things I wish I had. But I’m going to hold your idea close to me, the idea that no matter what our problems are, they’re not as severe as we think. I’m eager to have the ability to see something positive out of anything that happens in my life.

Amen!

Once again, you strike a chord that rings deep. Thanks for putting such a positive and personal spin on these life concepts in one great post.

Over the years, I’ve found that it’s beneficial to “work” these concepts constantly in your mind like a muscle. I have personally experienced what happens when you let your ignorance make you lazy, causing you to fall back into your unproductive habits.

This post is definitely an insightful refresh that I will continue to look back to when I catch my self slipping. Keep the incredible content coming!

A lot of powerful statements you touched on. Being a “glass half full” kinda person I found it incredibly motivational. I’ve been guilty of a lot of the home truths that you talk about in the past, but these days I tend to choose the more positive approach to things.

I heard a quote a few years back which still rings in my mind to this day:

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got”

Powerful stuff!

Thanks again for a great series Yaro.

Keith

Keep it up

David

I was impressed by your inspirational writing style! The article focused on empowering oneself to live in a manner which “lets go” of negative energy we seem to store and opens onself to new experiences and perceptions. I appreciate the insight and will refer back to your article to help me stay focused on moving foreward with openness.

I have sent you an email through your blog.

(Sorry Yaro!)

Wayne.

Don’t get discouraged. The next step is to give that same kind of attention and intention to creating what you would love to experience in life. Just for an hour or two, lift your head up out of responding to challenges and dare to explore and capture your true needs and desires. Then, give just a few minutes every day to feeling into the joy and delight you will feel once you have fulfilled those needs and desires.

Don’t worry about the how of it. Just give your attention on a regular basis, every day – just for a few minutes. You will find that after a few days, you will begin to get new ideas about actions you might take to support your dreams. It is so easy to keep blinders on and stay stuck, so remember that by applying that same kind of dogged attention and intention, you can create whatever you desire. You go Coz.

good to know there are real people out there!
(I am very isolated here.)

Wayne.

Regards
Troy

My photo doesn’t necessarily reveal this, but I am now 66 and just launching a grand new adventure in life. Very excited everyday about each moment.

As for the typos, I am not sure I can blame Murphy, and unlike you Mario, I am a native English speaker so maybe I have to blame poor typing skills and inadequate concentration (and insufficient sleep?)

(And maybe these nested comments borders hiding the right-handside of the sentences may have something to do with it. I can not actually see some of the words, so I can not see the typos until I have submitted the comment. An imperfection or a bug in the plugin Yaro? I will have to watch out for this on my blog.)

Wayne

I can not see much of what I just wrote, so here goes! More typos?

By the way, I’m not afraid to die. I’m just afraid for the pain. Thus a sudden death would be most comfortable.

Yes, we are all still works in progress.

Interseting that you feel fright of flying. (And great that you understand that it is related to fright of death.)

Interesting to me as I have been terrified of heights all my life.

(So of course Life has organized for me to be challenged over and over with working with heights in my previous occupation. [That I still have nightmares about several times each week twenty years later!])

But! I am not frightened of flying!

I am actually not very fightened of death. (I have done masses of work with myself to incept and love and welcome and invite death. [but not want ot die!])

What I am frightened of is failing to fulfil my life’s purpose before death.

And I am frightened by the possible processes of dying.
(I am terrified of the idea of being burnt to death or torn into little pieces by a shark).
But actually being dead? It will be relief!

Wayne.

P.S. If this deep and profound thread continues you may need to change the title of your blog! How does “Philosophers Journey” sound? (Of course the .com domain is almost certainly not available.

But please do not worry, I am not too concerned with worldly or even biological success. The only success that really concerns me is success with fulfilling the purpose of my life.

But! I will admit that in the past there have been times when I felt disappointed and even severely depressed that I did not have a family.

However, I have been listening to and guided by my “Whisperer voice” (which is called “incandescence” in my work) for many years now and so far I have survived each and every challenge that Life has organized for my growth and my glowth.
(It has not always been easy!)

Recently and right now I am not feeling the fright of failure and the fright of dying alone and childless.

I am more concerned with improving my power and my health and my strength and surviving long enough to fulfill my purpose.

Wayne.

P.S. All my life, since I was knee high I have said that I would not get married until I I was 55. (I have not felt mature or responsible enough to raise children [until now?] (And now I feel neither the desire nor the desperation to have a woman and children.) I will be 55 in less than a month, so, who knows?

‘Don’t take life to serious, you don’t survive it anyway!’

This is the message I read between the lines in your great article and one of mottoes I love since I was a boy.

At school I never let teachers define what or who I had to be. The same was true for the years (or should I say the life) that followed. I learned more and reached more than I could imagine back then, but I also lost on my way. It never withheld me from taking the road less traveled. Most important it never will be.

Change is everything. It gives an extra stimulus to you creativity.

You are right when you say that it’s your own decision what you think and as a result of it feel. There is just a little catch here and I know that you understand what I mean. Panic attacks. In one of your older posts I read that you had/have them too.

Panic attacks can eat up all your creativity and paralyze you. I had them often and especially last year I had a series of panic attacks that killed all my creativity for month.

Due to an unpleasant situation (I’m underestimating here) I had to do some steps back and reorganize my life. The result is that I had to go back to day jobs that are far under my educational level. However, first I had none, now I have three of them. I never thought I could fall that deep after all the things I studied and achieved before.

Downgrading your life seems much more difficult than upgrading it, so to say. I think that the fear of lost is a fear that holds many people back to change something. Personally I see this downgrading process as a temporary thing (and it is) where I can pad the dust from my shoulders, lean back and see what steps in the right direction I can take next.

I don’t blame the worldwide crisis for this, as my crisis begun years before that. Though I don’t blame anyone who is using it as an alibi for not trying something new (while I know they could) I always said to myself that being a victim is not for me. I don’t want to see me like one and keep going on as long as I can.
There was even a doctor telling that a burn-out like the one I had suffered was comparable with a post traumatic stress disorder. I think however ‘cool’ this may sound when you can use this as an alibi, it would insult all those who are really suffering from this disease. Like victims of war or high school massacres.

A very enlightening experience came when I re-discovered my blog. I started to put all the passion that was left in it and since then it’s flourishing. And when I say flourishing, I don’t necessarily meant that it makes me a living. Most important is that at the moments I work on the things I love, my life doesn’t feel like a permanent LSD-trip.

In the end I seem to regain my strength again. I fall and stand up again. Everybody can win from me, but not when it comes to trying again over and over again. Finally the road less traveled is made for all of us. Make sure you walk it at least once in your life.

Thank you again for your articles, Yaro.

Let’s embrace the changes that are on our ways. We can’t avoid them anyway.

N.B.: Forgive me my typos if you find any. I’m not a native English speaker, let stand an English writer.

If someone wants to know the truth, truely, he has to challenge his own belief system and accept that what he think is true may not be so. It is only by approaching the world with this sort of humility that one can really get to learn and know something. And even then, one should be open to be challenged again if a doubt arise and do what is necessary to see if this doubt is reasonable or not.

Discarding all truth altogether can only lead to ignorance and obscurantism.

In this case curiosity doesn’t kill the cat?

Gestalt therapy uses an existential approach and considers a clients “here and now.” The initial goal for a client is to gain awareness of what they are experiencing and doing at that time in their life. This type of therapy encourages the client to directly experience a situation rather than talk about it. For example, if they experienced childhood trauma, they will be encouraged to become the hurt child rather than just talk about it. Therefore the therapists goal is to assist their self-awareness of what they are doing and how they are doing it.

This awareness includes insight, self-acceptance, knowledge of ones environment, a responsibility for choices and an understanding of the concept of change. For the client – they will experience a discovery – they will realize new things about themselves, see old situations in a new light and look differently at significant others. As well, they will recognize that they have a choice in their lives and that they may behave differently, influence their own environment, deal with daily surprises and have the confidence to improve and improvise.

To succeed in bringing the client this awareness, experiments are used. The Internal Dialogue experiment helps the client identify struggles in their lives for control. In order to do so they role play the conflicts they experience – being both the controlled and the controller at the same time. The Making the Rounds experiment helps a person be able to make confrontations, take risks, disclose themselves and try new behaviours to grow and change. To do so, the client must go around a group of people and speak to each of them or do something with each of them. In the Reversal Technique experiment, the client is asked to role play the opposite symptoms and behaviours from what they are suffering. This helps the client to accept the personal attributes that they have tried to deny.