I was thinking the other day what my dream girl would be like. As much as I think “opposites attract” can work it’s a lot more fun to hang out with someone who’s just as much of geek as you are, err, who has the same hobbies and interests as you do.
So I thought, Yaro, what do you enjoy doing? You like writing and tennis, the web and blogging, technology and business. You enjoy freedom, value spare time and stay in a perpetual state of relaxation for as long as you possible can. You shun the 9-5 lifestyle and look for depth and meaning from interactions with other people (idle chatter is not encouraged). Simply put, you enjoy some pretty normal stuff but live a pretty abnormal lifestyle compared to what’s considered ‘normal’.
From a day to day basis I rarely meet anyone who has as much freedom as I do. Most individuals who brush my path are stressed, tied to a job with strict responsibilities and live from holiday-to-holiday with the occasional alcohol-induced good time on weekends in-between.
Simply put, it’s easier to wake up in the morning, go to work, stay sufficiently occupied but certainly not happy and come home way too tired to even consider how much you are wasting your life away. It’s easier to stay in a working-coma.
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Do you like the [box]? Do you fit into it?
Finding someone who doesn’t slot into the [box] is rare. Finding someone of the opposite sex who is attractive, interesting, and who doesn’t live in the [box] is borderline un-ubiquitous (I think I just made up a word).
You see the problem is that the proverbial box exists because of our beliefs. Whether it’s because of our education system, how our parents raised us or good old fashioned capitalism doesn’t matter. What matters is that we’ve *learned* that this is how life is meant to be. This is what we must seek to find value in our lives. And heck, everyone else is doing it so it must be right…
We’ve been trained to think in [boxes] where we should be trained to think in open spaces.
Many people dream in open spaces, but they are only dreams. Unfortunately it’s very rare for someone to act in open spaces. It’s even rarer (un-ubiquitious) for someone to perpetually live in open spaces. What an amazing world it would be if we did.
I’ve been thinking, would I date a blogger? Am I the biggest uber-geek in the world to even ask this question? Probably, but I’ll do anything for attention.
Would YOU date a blogger?
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Yaro,
You seriously need to get laid bro. That is it, when is the next flight out to Australia, I’m bringing you out to the strippers.
Jay
Jay - can’t argue with that logic
But seriously this post was not just the ramblings of an average frustrated chump anymore than it was a hopeless romantic looking for like minded people.
Plus of course the usual call for people to wake up and start looking for those sweet smelling roses.
So what kind of dating are you looking for? The kind where you get along and do the whole “hey let’s date” thing? Or are you thinking about something that’s along the lines of “hey let’s be b/f/g/f?” Just keeping an open mind? What’s the scoop here?
I love when people think getting laid is a solution to anything. It’s not even necessarily effective means of getting pregnant.
This might sound kind of lame but, do what you beleive in. If you find someone you like who just happens to be a blogger, so what. Now get out there and find her!
As for me, I would date a blogger. No big deal. But to acheive that I would actually have find someone to go out with.
As long as she was a problogger earning at least 6 figures. J/k
Dave
Hi Yaro!
I think that you’ve simply got to get out there and just experience life. Living behind a box can teach you a lot of things but living a full life means just not being wrapped up in a computer. I love to negoiate with people and i mean i can do it on MSN but to be honest its better in person kinda like sex… always better in person.
As for dating a blogger… i would. Geeky girls are awesome and a hell of a lot more interesting too. Interesting article again Yaro!
Lucas
Sounds like an article I read the other day:
Would I Date Someone Who Doesn’t Have A Blog?
Must be something going around!
I appreciate the suggestions everyone. I really should have perhaps renamed this article and changed the focus a little since it wasn’t meant to be a plea for help to find a partner, though it can read like that.
My gripe - my thesis - is that people in general are in the [box] so they have very little in common with myself and others like me.
I go out enough and the problem often is incompatible lifestyles and very narrow minded horizons. I question where the people that don’t think like this, that live in open spaces, congregate?
And yes I’m well aware the idea is to just be “out there” and the right person will come along, but that doesn’t make for an interesting or appropriate article post for this blog, hence I wrote this article instead.
I wouldn’t date a blogger, but only because my fiancé doesn’t blog. I doubt she would start; she doesn’t seem to be the sort. I think that’s my end of the relationship.
Yaro,
Do I smell an untouched niche? Entrepreneur dating site? hmmm… solo-preneurdating….
jay
You know Jay I think I’ve heard of someform of meetup service for entrepreneurs but it wasn’t specifically for “dating” it was more for getting partners for a new enterprise.
I think you are right though - potential niche there - small/home business owner dating.
SmallBusinessDating.com anyone?
I agree with Lucas Geeky Girls Rock….I absolutely love girls with a brain…actually here’s a great meeting tip Yaro — I use to go to bookstores to meet girls….I know sounds cheesy, but think about it — if you like business and are int eh business section and a female happens to be in that section too, doesn’t it say enough to figure that she may be interested in a similar topic — I would usually open the line of conversation with “I heard this book is really great, have you heard about ?”…. than make small talk and if things seem to be going well invite her to join you for a coffee (most bookstores have a coffee joint right inside).
Jay - I used to do that fairly often. Not in the business section so much, though as that wasn’t my thing yet.
I also had good luck at the gym in off hours; less of a meat marketishness and more of a serious about workoutishness.
I met the love of my life when she was stretching on a park bench; I invited her to join a workout with my team that was in progress.
Would You Date A Blogger?…
Here’s another on that has been haunting my drafts for a while: Yaro (who, it would seem, fancies himself something of a blog guru) asks Would You Date A Blogger?: Ive been thinking, would I date a blogger? Am…
Jay, the “untouched niche” isnt so untouched. http://www.entrepreneurdating.com.
Trev
Hi,
My blogger name is Agent Ska and I am girl. As of recent, I’ve been surprised to find that my blog has gotten me dates! I was shocked.
According to a blog post about an article in Seventeen Magazine, men who are bloggers are now a new “type of man to date”.
It seems that bloggers are now sexy? Who woulda thunk it?
Anyways. I’d be down with dating a blogger. As long as a confidentiality agreement was made ahead of time, stating that neither of us would blog about our dating life.
-Agent Ska-
Why not? There are services out there to make it easier to meet other bloggers who are single. http://dateablogger.com/
Yes, I would date an attractive female blogger. I love working out and playing tennis and I also love blogging. Why not date a hot blogger?
“who has the same hobbies and interests as you do.”
Well , I think it’s doesn’t matter same hobbies or not. However my answer is yes.. I would like to date a blogger ….
“I go out enough and the problem often is incompatible lifestyles and very narrow minded horizons.”
Dude, totally. I’m more artistically inclined (instead of enjoying business), but the problem is the same– what always amazes me is the sheer presumptuousness of people who are “in the box” (for whatever reason). Like, recently, I was talking on the train to someone saying that I really wanted to win a green card so I could move to LA and produce US prime time television (I left out the act-in-it part). So this person says to me, “uh, how horrible” like they have a right to judge me. I don’t believe I have the right to tell people, “so you want to live a boring frustrating life slaving away in an office because you have the creative horizon of a fruit fly?” But they dish out judgemental comments all the time and don’t even notice it (and in fact often believe they are oh-so-tolerant).
Yeah, anyway. If you ever come to Germany, my BFF might be a girl for you– she owns a massive sci-fi DVD collection, spends her free time blogging, and has no further aspirations than to eventually get married and raise a bunch of kids while writing fantasy novels in her free time. She’s cute, too.
Well Yaro, I think the best place to meet open-minded people is exactly where you are now - travelling. Nothing makes you approach other people more than being in another country. Although, if you do find someone, the hard part is staying together on the road or making plans from there. At least you will have a great time no matter where it goes!
But travelling alone with another girl may ward off any possible approachers