The Day My Life Changed

By Yaro Starak
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Almost a month ago I woke up to a phone call at 7am. It was my mother’s partner’s son calling me to tell me that my mum had a stroke and was in hospital.

She had been watching TV, heard a buzzing noise, had a seizure and started speaking gibberish. Her partner called an ambulance and although she recovered somewhat on the way to the hospital emergency area, she succumbed again and was admitted to the intensive care unit.

I arrived at the hospital the morning after the stroke. Thus began our new life.

This experience was, and continues to be an emotional roller coaster. It is difficult to see your mother unable to move or talk, essentially trapped in her own body. She’s a strong minded intelligent woman, currently facing her worst nightmare. When she is most alert she can communicate with us via her left toe and arms, and her eyes open, but most of the time she is in a half awake state, constantly poked and prodded by the hospital staff.

Her prognosis is somewhat unknown. Time will tell how much better she will get and the main medicine is patience. This is the kind of patience that can last months – even years.

I’m currently typing this sitting in the stroke ward next to my mother. She is surrounded by people who are in varying degrees of the same condition and a dedicated staff of nurses and doctors there to help. As her only son I am the closest person in the world to her and I know my presence and voice has the potential to be of the most help. I especially want to be here during the times she is afraid, and to monitor her changes so I can stay abreast of her condition.

I Have A Day Job

The purpose of this article is not to reflect on how emotional, spiritual or awareness changing an experience like this can be to all involved. That reflection expressed in writing will no doubt come in the future, as the story progresses and I feel it’s the right time to write about it.

For the time being I want to offer some explanation for where I have been, given this blog hasn’t seen my writings for nearly four weeks. Considering I have published something of my own on this blog at least once a week since it started I figured you might be wondering what happened to me. I’ve communicated via Twitter and Facebook to update people, but since not everyone follows me at those sites I figured it was time to update the E-J audience.

Currently I have a day job. I spend every day, seven days a week, at hospital with my mum. I go home to feed the cat and do the one or two chores I give myself each night (clean dishes, wash clothes, pay bills, process email, etc.). I cook myself some dinner, watch a little TV, check the Internet, then head to bed and do it all over again the next day.

I don’t feel upset that my life has become so focused on the hospital and may well be for many months because I can’t imagine anywhere else I want to be. This is a job I have to do and want to do. Being elsewhere feels uncomfortable, though of course I realize balance is necessary, so I don’t spend every hour next to my mum’s bed. I manage to do some exercise at the park near the hospital, head to the city for lunch once a week, see friends occasionally and do some work on the laptop.

As horrible at times as this experience has been, it’s also been a real privilege. Though I don’t wish to see my mother suffer, since reality is what it is, I’ve had to take on board this situation and process it from all angles. On some levels it has been amazing and a gift, though it is far from easy.

What About Business?

At the start of this year I began to make changes to this blog. I’ve written previously about the introduction of the new columnists to E-J, about the switch to a magazine model and increasing the value this site provides through other peoples contributions.

A big benefit of this process, and certainly a big motivation behind it, has been to remove the dependency this blog has had on my work to succeed. Little did I realize that just a few months after making these changes would I face a situation that would really test the system.

As you can imagine I haven’t had much time to do work, nor did I have a lot of motivation, especially during the first few weeks where everything was constant changes, big decisions and lots of communicating with people about what was going on with my mum.

I consider it a real blessing that the entire time I spent next to my mother when all this broke out, my business continued to function pretty much as it had. Here’s what my business currently does without me -

  1. The wonderful team of columnists continue to share their entrepreneurs journey with you, with one new article per week-day coming from either Leevi, Neroli, Dr Mani, Dee, Leslie, Nacie, Aziz, Kerry, Mitch, Sunil or Ken.
  2. Steph, our editor, works with the columnist team to edit and maintain a publishing schedule. She also liaises with all the writers and handles applications from new budding columnists.
  3. Angela, my long serving admin person, handles all the email and customer service for our paying members as she has done for many years. I generally batch process emails once every week or two, handling the 20 to 30 messages that pile up that only I can deal with.
  4. In another situation of good timing, development on my new software service recently went into a phase that doesn’t require much from me. We completed the visual designs, which I worked closely on with Mick my designer, but that wrapped up in May. Mick and my development partner Walter have been working hard on the code to put everything together, which has progressed without needing my input.
  5. Although I’m not making as much money as I did when all my courses were launched the first time, enough comes in from advertising, affiliate income and new memberships into my Blog Mastermind program to keep us cash flow positive. This all happens either automatically through payment systems and email autoresponders, or with a little help from Angela in the case of setting up sponsor ad campaigns.

Thanks to the years spent building up my blog, creating content and recruiting a small but vitally helpful work-from-home team, things run pretty smoothly.

It’s also a wonderful feeling knowing that our new projects are still progressing without me, since these are parts of my life I most look forward to on a personal level.

There Is One Thing

Given that I wasn’t able to find time for anything during the first two weeks in the intensive care unit it was interesting to see exactly what happened without me. Everything in the business continued fine, with only one area that required my help – blog article headline writing.

I’m quite picky with blog headlines here on E-J. The columnists write their own headlines, which sometimes we use as-is. More often than not however, I like to go to work to come up with improvements, since the headline is the most important part of an article, determining whether people bother to read it or not.

This is a creative task and somewhat subjective when it comes to deciding what will work. You only get once chance with a new article to release it with a good headline, since an article is only new once. It can be a hit and miss process, but since I’ve spent over five years writing headlines and email subject lines (very similar to headlines for blogs), I’ve become intuitive about what works well.

Steph, our editor, has stepped up to the plate when it comes to headlines, however her development as a kick-ass copywriter is still progressing. She is having to “unlearn” quite a bit of her academic background in order to develop this skill.

Steph and I have been doing headline brainstorming sessions a couple of times per week in order to sort out the headlines. We chat on skype and come up with headline concepts that we slowly work on until we have something we like. Since I’ve been in hospital, Gideon Shalwick has stepped up and helped out at night working with Steph.

Headlines and responding to email once a week or every two weeks are the only jobs I’ve needed to do. Even emails don’t really “need” me, since rarely are they actually pressing matters vital to the success of the business.

Can Your Business Run Without You?

This experience has really challenged me to think what would happen if it was me facing a rehabilitation period of possibly years? What would happen to my business if I couldn’t do ANY work?

These are questions you should ask yourself. Beyond your own health, consider what would happen if you had a loved one suddenly need your attention 10 hours per day. What would happen to your business? Would it keep working?

Here are some more specific questions you should consider answering if in the event you were no longer able to put in as much work – or any work at all – into your business.

Have a think about some of these questions and how ready you are for situations that will make you face them.

And while you are there, I’d appreciate a prayer or whatever is appropriate from you for my mum, Zahava Starak, during this challenging time. She needs all the help she can get.

Yaro Starak
Living In Hospital

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206 Comments

  • Hi Yaro, I am sorry to hear that. My prayer goes to your mum and I hope she will get well soon. Take care!

  • Yaro:

    I’m holding you both in the light.

    Thank you for sharing a bit about what must be a very intimate and intense experience for you both.

    It is very helpful to hear specifics about how you and your business have been impacted (or not impacted). The questions you ask are so helpful! I’ve wondered about all of this for both myself and my husband, but he wasn’t ready for the conversation yet. This post gives me the courage to keep nudging him, and myself.

  • Yaro:

    I’m holding you both in the light.

    Thank you for sharing a bit about what must be a very intimate and intense experience for you both.

    It is very helpful to hear specifics about how you and your business have been impacted (or not impacted). The questions you ask are so helpful! I’ve wondered about all of this for both myself and my husband, but he wasn’t ready for the conversation yet. This post gives me the courage to keep nudging him, and myself.

    Love and blessings,
    Laila

  • Yaro-

    Thinking of you and your Mom and sending beautiful energy and thoughts to you both.

    Keep your chin up.

    Best-
    Natalie

  • Sorry to hear that yaro. You are a great inspiration. I’m a serious hater of god, so I won’t pray in any situation. But I wish your mom would be well soon.

    • You are also NOT afraid to seriously stand up for what you believe, popular or not. That’s pretty cool and a good example to follow. If you have nothing to die for, you have nothing to live for.

  • Our prayers are with your Mom. I wish everything will be alright with you soon!

  • Joe

    Hey Yaro,

    Keep well, thanks for sharing your story. Reading a story like this puts things into perspective about having free time when the unexpected happens. Thank you for sharing. Prayers for your mom

  • My thoughts are with you. Having gone through a similar circumstance, I understand what you must had gone through. Don’t forget to take some time for yourself.

  • Hey Yaro, my thoughts are with both of you, and wish your mum a quick recovery.

  • Hi Yaro,

    I hope your mom gets well soon and recovers..

  • Hi Yaro,

    I read your blog regularly so I was really sorry to hear about your situation now. I hope and pray your mother will recover soon. My thoughts are with you.

    Blessings,

    Janet

  • Yaro,

    All the very best for a quick recovery for your Mum.

    I had the pleasure of meeting her in person a couple of years ago at her house when she assessed me for my Life Coaching certificate (I passed!), and for that I owe her a great deal!

    She’s a lovely person and I hope she’s back on her feet soon.

    Take care

    xx

  • Hello Yaro,

    I was wondering where you’ve gone because i didn’t read your great inspirational posts for a while. I knew that with the very solid mindset you have, it must be something that really goes beyond anyone’s power. Hearing that, i hope that you’ll be strong for your Mom and i really hope that she gets well very soon.

    David;

  • Hi Yaro..
    wish you all the best..
    and wish your mum get well soon..

  • Hi Yaro and thanks for writing this it has made me feel better for mine is somewhat of a tragic story, for the last 3 or so years I have been building my blog up to the same level as yours and took the leap recently to move the blog from IM 101 to TheEpicBlog and open it out to more guest authors.

    I am so glad I did as for the past six months I have not had the inspiration to write anything of any real value because ‘The Day That Changed My Live’ was 25th December 2010 as I lost my 62 y/old mother Patricia between 10pm christmas eve and 7am Chrismas Day. she had been only retired for 6 months and I wanted to build my blog into a business as big as yours so I could help my mother enjoy her retirement.

    My mother loved her drink and this wednesday We will find out if it was liver cirrhosis or the -30degrees of the night before as my mum was found in the snow outside her front door, these past 6 months have been a rollercoaster for me I even got to the point where I nearly gave up my blog thinking whats the point now that mum is gone!

    I was very proud to write a peice about mum and also carry her into the chapel during the service! being a blogger I know a bit about writing and so glad that I was able to stand up in front of 600+ family and friends for the service!

    As for the future I am going to dedicate TheEpicBlog to the memory of my mother and start writing more to it. It’s amazing is it not Yaro how events that happen in our lives can change the way we all think. Well done on looking after your mother remember we all have one and once she’s gone thats it so look after her well and i hope and prey that she will get better for you soon!

    All the best Yaro to you and your Mum!

    -Phillip Dews

    an epic but sad blogger

  • Your Mother really did her job well, you being with her like this and taking care of her in time of need. You are doing a fantastic – absolutely fantastic – thing by being with her. God bless you and your Mum.

    I have advertised on your site, have taken your Membership course and have had an occasional discussion with you on the gender of bimmers/beamers :), but I do feel that you are one of my teachers. I have always wanted to personally meet my teachers, who inspire me without pretty much knowing about it.

    I hope that someday, I can come over to your country, and take you and your Mum out for a nice meal.
    God bless and hope your Mum gets well really, really soon!

  • thankyou for such a heartfelt, grounded and wise post yaro. you have always shown immense heart balanced with wise n kind mind in all your work, which reflects your strength, vulnerabilty, grace and humility, in life and in biz. what an amazing woman your mum must be, for you to be who you are, and i’m SURE that right now, your light and being is the deepest form of nourishment available for her, and the biggest blessing in her life, and what she is most grateful 4. mothers are so precious n sacred, and all her giving to u is now divinely returned, how beautiful life can unfold hey? blessings & love to you all :: devii

  • Yaro, you are a special person. And this post is golden. Thanks for sharing these powerful insights.

    Many years ago, I wrote a report. A “business survival kit”. My goal, at the time, was to make sure thousands of people working online would read it – and change the way they plan, act and keep records, to ensure continuity of their work. Sadly, it got put on the back-burner – with the result “How To Guarantee Your Web Business WILL Survive – Even Without You” has barely reached a few dozen people!

    Well, this is as good a chance as any to try and change that. Instead of selling it, I’ll just give it away to anyone who reads this post and wants it – as a gift.

    No opt-in. No payment. Nothing. Just a direct download link to a PDF file.

    If you like it, find it helpful, and have suggestions to expand or improve it, please share them – either here, as a comment, or by email.

    Download a copy here: http://EzineMarketingCenter.com/survival.pdf

    Yaro, you and your mom are in my prayers.

    “This too shall pass!”

    All success
    Dr.Mani

  • It says a lot about a person how they react to unexpected tragedies like this. The decisions you’ve made are an inspiration mate – not even just as a business person but as a human being.

    Elysia and my thoughts are with you and your mom and we wish all the best.

    Andrew

  • Will pray for your mum Yaro.
    God is always around. In times of good and bad. Sincerely

  • As you already know, I’ve been praying for your mom, and will continue to do so. I know how that is as I was faced with a very similar situation 2 months ago with my dad. Had to travel all the way to Colombia to be with him in the hospitals there. Prayer works, so I will continue.

    Anyways, So glad that I can be a part of the team that helps you through these tough times. It’s an honor and a privilege to be able to do so, after all you’ve done to help me grow my business.

    This post is serious food for thought, so thanks for sharing. If I were to disappear from my business anytime soon, things would NOT go as smoothly. However, I do plan on making it so that that doesn’t continue. Hard work now will pay off in the future, but we ALL do need to make sure that we’re taking the necessary steps, in case of emergency.

    All the best to you and your family bro.

    Leslie

  • Yaro, you changed my life with your blog and yours courses, as you changed the life of thousands of people, and even more indirectly.
    I wish you courage during these these hard times.

  • So sorry about your mom. Prayers going up for her and for you, too!

  • I wish your mum the best and quickest recovery, and as for you i love how you have been able to be honest and be you and no one else.I suppose our mum possess the same characteristic.That alone has made me come here again and again, God Bless and when its tough like this you got pray, for from that, you shall receive awesome self therapy. Baba know this, it shall come to pass. Dont forget to put a cheerful smile while at your mums bedside and see how that alone can cheer her up.

  • I feel very sad,after read your story.My dad also had such type of seizure and when all test get done.Doctors said it has brain tumor.I got stunned and they fixed the operation date.almost 2 yr gone and still my dad on bed,unable to walk or talk…

  • You are such a great inspiration to so many people. Thank you for your honesty and the way you open up your life to us.

    All the best Yaro.. My prayers are with you.

  • Great post very TOUCHY and TEACHING the real fact of life.

    First of don’t worry about your MOM coz GOD are always with you and We are also always with you and by the way of prayer we will constantly pass message to god that not to leave you alone.

    As in every situation God is always with us in different faces and helps us in keep flowing our routine say in your case -You TEAM which works for you constantly without your presence.

    As this post has given very important message that what to do if such situation comes in our life like how to manage it, balance it, whom to give first preference etc..

    We are feeling very PROUD for you that you are capable enough to handle such situation.

    Thanks a lot for this that you have concentrate your mind in this sensitive situation.
    Everything will be OK soon. Have faith on GOD.

  • I hope this is just a short bad phase of your life and your mom will get well soon, you have to keep patience and be mentally strong at this moment. All the best for you & your mom.

  • Yaro, I’m a one man band so if the band don’t play the music doesn’t get heard and the blog gathers cobwebs. In growth stage I guess that’s how it goes. But, as you clearly express, people matter more than anything else, especially those who have our hearts. We can always start again or put things on hold because when love comes to call we always step up. Being an entrepreneur proves there are some things money can’t buy. I pray your Mum recovers and that you will enjoy many more years loving and laughing together. I wish you both well Yaro.

  • Ric

    Yaro, I have been there, Mom was in IC for four months until she passed away. I visited several times a day. Taking care of yourself is the up most importance because Mom is depending on you to take care of business. It’s easy to become bogged down mentally and physically.

    I’m sure you are getting educated about the subject of strokes. I did this in my Mom’s situation, doing this takes you mind off of worrying, you gain a understanding for the problem and you find solutions outside of the main stream medical treatments.

    A prayer doesn’t hurt either, I know it’s a helpless feeling, your Mom needs you now to stay health and strong.

    Best Wishes…

  • Hello Yaro,

    Excersising in the Park is an excellent coping strategy, when I have intense emotional stuff to deal with, excersising is like a ‘Valve’

    Take care,

    All the Best,
    HP

  • Wow. This is such a heartfelt blog post. I can’t imagine how I’d feel if this happened to anyone in my immediate family. My grandmother’s had a couple of strokes, but she’s still fully functional. She’s quite lucky actually. I’m relatively new to this blog, but my heart goes out to you and your family.

  • Sorry to hear about that Yaro. I just went through a similar situation with my X brother in law. It was very difficult. But keep your head up and this too shall pass.

  • Hey Yaro,

    Thanks for being so open and honest about your situation.

    Your staff have really done a great job in your absence. The posts are still super insightful and very valuable. So please don’t feel a need to rush back to ‘work’.

    All the best and I pray things are on the improve for you all.

    Dan

  • Hi! Yaro,

    I feel your pain.

    As an only son in a family of seven, I know how it feels sitting beside your mum in the ward.

    You’ve been an impact to me, a mentor to me in the entrepreneurial aspect of life all the way from Australia down to Nigeria and if there’s one thing I can do to reward you right now, it’s to pray that mum, Zahava Starak (such a lovely name ought not to be written in the hospital books) recovers much quickly than expected.

    I miss you.

    EJ misses you.

    Be strong for the readers for EJ,
    Chukwuka Okwukwe Chukwuka.

  • Yaro, I came to know you not quite long, but when I went through your profit blog blueprint, I was truly satisfied with your write up…satisfied in the sense that you came to truly revealed what works and what not in blogging. Such info pack e-book ought not to be free to some people but you gave it out for people to learn and make money blogging like you do. Just trying to express how nice you are…and I have heard you speak on audio with Gideon.
    Yaro, the point is this…your mum will recover in Jesus name. Amen!
    Alphonsus

  • Hi Yaro

    Have been in touch with your Dad and he told me about Zahava. I am so sorry to hear that she has had a stroke. You and I first met in the days when you were still in utero! I was present at your “welcome to the world party.” I do hope that she recovers but realise there may be brain or other physical damage. I pray this will not be so.

    Sending love

    Julia

  • Wow… great to hear from you and firstly you are a super son and your mom is proud of you. Praying for your mom and hang in there all will turn out well.

    Cheers

  • Sorry to hear the bad news. I’m sure your Mum will make a full recovery faster than you think possible right now so important to stay positive. I had a similar situation with premature twins – your life is turned upside down without notice without a deadline on when things may change, but they will and you’ll get through it.

    Nick

  • What a very special person you are.
    I have been following your blog for a while and have learned a lot.

    I wish your mother a prompt recovery, she must be a special woman too.

    Daniel

  • John

    Hey Yaro,

    My prayer goes out to u and ur mum. Keep believing that she will recovered!!!

  • Hey Buddy… my heart reaches out to you… I lost my grandfather two years ago to a stroke and it was the hardest thing I have ever gone through… I wish you peace and well being..

    Steve

  • My prayers and wishes for your mother to get well soon to become healthier and happier. Will be happy if you can give me permission through email to do a special healing prayer for her.

    Thank you. and best of health and happiness.

    Dr Maharaja SivaSubramanian N

  • Sorry to hear about your Mom. I lost my mom 2 yrs. ago at the age of 81. People tend to think that everyone who is “old” is frail and sickly. My mom was vibrant, worked part time, drove herself and was full of life.
    But no matter how you look and feel at that age your organs become frail and don’t function properly. So when something goes wrong the impact is devastating.
    I miss my mom everyday, I always will. My dad died 34 years ago so mom was my only parent for so many years.
    Moms are unique for sure. The one person we know longer than any other person, from birth to death. Nothing else can ever fill that void.

  • Unhappy news, indeed. I hope your Mum’s strength serves her well and she improves and heals quickly. These traumatic events in our lives can often be opportunities to re-evaluate our own circumstances, and strengthen our own efforts.

    I understand the disruption all too well, as over the past 3 yrs my family has lost 6 people (ages 19-61) very unexpectedly due to illness and accidental deaths.

    For me this time has made me look at what is important and how I might organize my life better. Also to make sure that life around me would continue to run smoothly in the event of my own illness or death.

  • My Mother has been doing the same with her mother and father who both have fallen hard into Alzheimer. I once had to hold her while she screamed and wailed. It takes powerful strength to keep from collapsing as well when I see her like this. Yaro, Have an outlet as well, have the emotion, and resume at your mothers side. I only hope to have a son as good as you.

  • Your story is very touching and thanks for sharing your story. I don’t know you personally but by following your blog, I feel that you are a very kind and giving person. I appreciate all of the knowledge that you share always. Just by reading this post by you, I’ve learned something from it alone. This just reinforces to me that I can never take a moment for granted in any given day. Definitely, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom as I know that it is not easy handling this situation. Experiences in life can result to spiritual lessons. It’s actually easier for me to handle certain things when I look at it that way. I ask, “What am I to learn from this?”

    You are truly an inspiration and I wish you the very best as you handle this situation. You are a very positive person and with your strength and determination, you will make it through. I send you lots of love, light, and peace as you move forward. May God Bless You both!

  • Will remember your mother in my prayers. God bless her and I hope she has a speedy and complete recovery.

  • Yaro,

    I recently lost my dad to a stroke so your story really hit close to home for me. I remember the time spent in the hospital waiting and though it was difficult, I know my dad is in a better place now. I felt I had to write to let you know you and your mom are in my thoughts and I’m sending good energy your way for her recovery.
    Take care,

    Wendy

  • Thanks for sharing, Yaro. I’m sorry that such a worrisome and unexpected circumstance is what prompted this post, but thankfully you’ve outlined a reality that most of us never even think about: there is only one of us all.

    It is mandatory for anyone running a business (online or off) to realize that “Life Happens”, and a contingency plan must be in place at all times if operations are to continue successfully.

    If there is any good news in all of this it is this: thanks to technology and foresight, you have the resources which allow you to spend as much time as you want with your Mom – and run your operations too.

    Years down the line, you’ll likely look back at this time with reverence. I hope so, anyway.

  • Cherish life. Cherish good health. Cherish your loved ones. These are the things that really matter.

  • Sad news. I sincerely hope your mother will promtly recover.

    Here’s my personal advice: don’t ignore your person & life. You have to consider to go back, little by little, to your life & rutine. That’s certainly what your mum would tell you to do. That’s also what medical experts would recomend.

    All my best for you and your family, Yaro!

  • May your mom have a speedy and complete recovery.

    Your priorities are straight, good for you. Spend as much time as you can at her side.

  • Yaro, I know the pain, fear, frustration that you are going through. Almost 20 years ago my parents were involved in an accident that left my mom in a coma for a couple days. She awoke paralyzed due to an injury to the brain stem.

    Fortunately, I was working for a company that was very understanding and supportive with the amount of time I spent at the hospital for the first month or so. You are fortunate that you’ve built your business to the point that it is able to continue while you focus on the most important job you’ve ever had.

    My prayers go up for you and your mum.

  • I also highly recommend the information provided by Jill Bolte Taylor in her book, My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey. It’s short and an easy read, but filled with valuable insights from someone who recovered from a major stroke.

    Oliver Sack’s book, Musicophilia: Tales of Music and the Brain, may spark some ideas about the benefits of using music to help reorganize brain function in your mother’s journey back to health.

    Music can also be helpful for both the patient and caretakers, because anything that relieves stress and promotes relaxation helps maintain health and speeds healing.

    Our bodies, brains, and minds are amazingly resilient.

    Best wishes to you and your mother as you make this journey!

  • Yaro, I’m very sorry to hear about your Mom and hope that she will make a strong recovery. I wish you the very best in making the most of the time with your mother and thanks for all the other insights that you have provided. Paul

  • Hope your mom recovers quickly, do keep us updated!

    I have to be honest, I really didn’t realize you haven’t made an update yourself for so long. Guess that means you succeeded in making the blog run on its own without your direct interference :)

  • All my wishes goes to your mum, she will be recovering soon!

    Simon

  • Hi Yaro,

    A few years ago I was in the hospital. I know what it feels like to lay there helpless. I needed all the support I could get. I command you for being there for you mum and gather all the support. Godspeed.

  • Hi Yaro,
    I’m very very very sorry to hear about your mother. Sure I’ll prey for her….

  • Hey Yaro,

    It’s Alvin Phang, I can totally understand where you coming from because my father was also once in an accident and in real serious bad condition. Thank god, he is fine today.

    I like to take this chance to pray for you in the name of Jesus , that I like to pray that he will help your mother “Zahava Starak” to get well soon and get a speedy recovery, and also I like to pray that he will give you the strength and wisdom to help pull you through this situation smoothly and give strength to your mum that she will recover from her injuries fast. amen.

    also I like to recommend, spend every time you have with her and keep on encouraging her she will get well soon :) Take care bro.

  • We’ll pray that you mom recovers soon. A time like this is really difficult to handle but just stay positive.

  • To be honest, this is the first time that I read a blog post word by word – was really mesmerized! All your readers’ prayers are always there with you, and I DO believe that mom shall recover in a few weeks!

  • Hugs and prayers for you and your mom.
    You’re doing the right thing by putting your mom first.
    Blessings!

  • Yaro,
    Know that you and your mother are in my thoughts and prayers. May you find peace in the moments you have together…

  • Yaro, my thoughts are with you and your mother. May she have a speedy recovery. You are a wonderful son to be caring for her. You are a treasure!

  • Dear Yaro,

    Your Mom is so very fortunate to have you for a loving son to help her thru this most difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Be sure and look after yourself!

  • fas

    Yaro, very few sons would do this sacrifice for their parents. We are proud of you.

  • Hi Yaro,

    I’ve never left a message here before, but your sharing here really touched me. I hope and pray for you and your family. Thank you for all you’ve done and take all the time you need. My sincere hopes for a speedy recovery for your mum.

  • Tom

    My very best to you and your mom in this difficult time Yaro. —-Tom

  • Thanks for that update Yaro… life takes twists and turns – from the straight road. We don’t know the path the road takes, as many choices as we make we only see what’s directly in front of us. What’s behind that bend up ahead? Over that hill?

    My business will run without me paying attention to it – maybe for years. That’s a nice feeling. My mother is also getting to the age where she might have a stroke or something else. It’s good to know I could be there for her, traveling 10,000 miles to be next to her if something happened.

    Cheers Yaro – best of life to you and your family!

    Vern

  • Dear Yaro,

    My prayers are with you and your Mum.

    Thank you for taking the time to give us this update and the business tips that go along with it. I know this is a very difficult time for you, and I am very impressed about how you are handling it.

    Best Wishes,
    Pat Doyle

  • Peace and prayers Yaro.

  • Zoe

    Yaro, this post stopped me at my tracks. Sorry to hear about your mum. I really hope she recovers well and recovers soon. I want you to also take the time to look after yourself and think positively while you’re by her side.

    This is the exact situation I’ve been discussing with my partner. As a child, my mother had to have surgery to save her life due to a blocked valve in the heart. I can’t even imagine what life would’ve been like if she hadn’t come out alive – thankfully she had a full recovery.

    Now my partner and I have to make our businesses automated – so should any situation life throws at us, our families will be taken care of financially and our businesses continue to run smoothly without us there. I think most people don’t want to think or plan for situations like these, but it’s better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it.

    You should get the book “The Brain That Changes Itself” by Norman Doidge, it contains inspirational true stories of stroke victims and other victims of brain trauma and how they recovered with miraculous results. Perhaps it may help your mother.

  • Hi Yaro,

    Sorry to hear what happened.

    Because I went through a similar situation, I feel empathy for you. Your mother gave your life, now – from the will of fate – you can give something back to her.

    I wish you endurance, and early recovery for your Mom.

    As for your team, they are making great work. No wonder, because they have a good teacher. Ideal working relationship that you’ve established with them.

    Your post points out that the business should work even if you are not present.

    In this respect are essential the questions you’ve asked. I can hardly overemphasize to my students that it is advisable to know the answers to these when you do your first business plan.

    Thanks for sharing.

    Sandor

  • Yaro, I’m sorry to hear about your Mum, but happy for you that you get to spend each day with her. I’ve been in your shoes, and what a difference it makes getting to be there for your parent.

    Sending prayers and good wishes to you both.

  • Yaro,

    I admire you for what you are doing. You being by her side is even better than medicine.

    I sincerely pray for you, your mum and those that are providing health care for her.

    Best wishes to you and your family during this trying time.

    Dave

  • Hey Yaro,

    Life really does deal some nasty hands from time to time. Be strong through the whole ordeal for your mother and yourself :-)

  • Hi Yaro, your Article is worth inspiring, i’m happy you are doing your part as a Son, I am the eldest son of my parents and recently I was baby sitting my Grand Mother, hoping for her to hang in there and see her Grand child from me, I’m doing all I can to make sure she stays alive for another 10 years (she’s 78) and believe you me am ready now and waiting for her to come bring life for US, my good friend keep it up and believe you will see her live for another 10 years

  • We recently had a friend in the family suffer from a stroke and that was upsetting for us. I have no idea how you must feel Yaro. But my thoughts are with Zahava.

    Best,

    Dave

  • Each time I’ll pray God, (I do it five times a day since I am a Muslim from Algeria, I’ll ask Almighty God to heal your mom because you deserve it! The fact that you stand all the time close to her makes you great! And finally, thank you for helping newbies like me to learn how to blog. I wish you good luck and a speedy recovery for your Mom.

  • dear yaro,

    take this as a good opportunity to show her that you love her. be patient. God will only tests us within our capabilities.

    if u and your team have not heard of Mila, the miracle seed, do read up abt it. thousands of people have benefit from this wholesome food.

    yaro, thanks for sharing your knowledge. i always read ur blog updates IMMEDIATELY! my prayers are for u, your mom and EJ team.

    if God will, u will go thru this difficult journey…

  • Yaro, I’m sorry to hear about your Mom, My prayers go out to her and you. My mom had a heart attack a while ago, and came out OK, but these things are scary as they really put our mortality in our faces doesn’t it? While a heart attack is different than a stroke, a stroke can leave a person completely disabled and as you say, trapped in her own body. it’s not a pretty site to see someone so strong, incapacitated.

    I had wondered what happened to you, I’m not on twitter much, I’ve got my own things going on and that takes up time for me.

    I will continue to support your blog and business in whatever way I can if it helps to pay the bills.

    Larry

  • With all humility am amazed how what you are going through Yaro is giving us great lessons for life and business. My prayer for you is God’s grace and strength and to your dear Mum, quick recovery.

  • AJ

    Yaro,

    I noticed the changes on your blog to a more “magazine” style. I also remembered when you tweeted about your mother being in the hospital and asking for prayers. Not too long ago I tweeted @ you and said that I missed your presence on the blog. Little did I know that all these things were interconnected!

    As challenging as a time this is for you I feel it’s also a blessing in disguise. This allows us all to think critically about not only our businesses but about what is most important in our lives. Thank you so much for having the courage to share this with us, we appreciate it more than you know!

    My prayers continue for you and your mother. Stay well,

    AJ

  • Yaro, my sympathies to your mom. I’m sending lots of healing to her and you. I don’t know what to say except that I am with you and her in any way that I can be. You’ve been on my mind a lot lately and I hadn’t been opening emails, but opened up your note today to read the news of your mom. Sending positive light and healing your way. You’re an amazing person, a great son, and your presence will help her heal. I’m so happy you’re able to be there with her at this difficult time. Know that you are both surrounded by thousands of people around the world supporting you with thoughts and prayers of healing.

    Love,
    Tara

  • I just prayed for fast recovery of your mom.

    I was on the same situation like yours with your mom right now.

    Take care.

  • Thanks Yaro for sharing with us what you are going through.

    I pray that we will get a praise report that the prayers that have been offered up for your mom have brought about healing.

    Keep the faith & stay strong. Nothing is impossible with God and those that believe.

  • Yaro: I’m so sorry to hear about your mother. I hope she recovers quickly.

    I thought your post was very caring and thoughtful. Like always, you turned your personal experience — painful as it has been — into a learning experience for others. Hopefully more people will think about what they would do if they were in a similar situation, and if they would have the freedom to take the time away from work that would be required. I’m certainly thinking about that.

    As an attorney, there’s both a blessing and a curse in that most attorneys can charge a high hourly rate, but the work requires you to be very present. It’s impossible to outsource the work. On the other hand, I have learned a lot reading your teachings and put a lot of thought into developing content that I hope will one day develop into consistent revenue that won’t require my daily, hourly presence. Your post today reminds me of how important that is.

  • I wish your Mum a speedy recovery, she has a great son to take care of her

    Get well soon Zahava,

    Joey

  • I send blessings to both of you. It’s great that you can do your work from anywhere. I wish your Mum the very best – and you as well. You have much courage.

  • Hey Yaro,
    Prayer…
    I know this shall pass too.
    Got what you wanted to convey through this post. Thanks.
    I have always liked your work because I liked you as a person first. Many succeed in business but doing it with integrity and congruence is what makes you different.
    This post is an awakening for all others to consciously work towards creating systems that thrive without their creator’s constant input.
    May this time brings to you what you are truly required to learn!
    Lots of love to Zahava Starak
    Sudeep

  • I pray for your mom tonight.

  • You being by her side will play an important part in her recovery :-)

    Best wishes,
    Gardfield.

  • Thanks for sharing you experience Yaro. I know that these difficult circumstances are occassions for us all to get things in perspective and touch again what is really important in our lives, and to eventually grow together. I wish you well and hope that your mum gets better soon.
    Best kind wishes
    Ness

  • Yaro
    I commend you for turning a struggle into a learning experience. I have tried to do the same with my kids during a very contentious divorce and they have been strengthened by this approach. Hopefully I have too and clearly you are as well.
    Good luck and I hope she recovers and gets well soon
    Mark

  • Yaro-

    Your candor and your love of your mum is exemplary and a lesson for us all.
    However, take care of yourself-seriously. Your primary focus now is, understandably,your mum’s health and the trauma of life interrupted. Do what you can, but understand the limits so that you may achieve a sense of balance. It will be a new equation, and different than your life before “the day that changed it.”

    Eat, sleep, condition, recharge and continue your journey with your vision of the future as your navigational driver. In that process continue to love, support and help your mum. Her well being is something you assist, but it should not be
    the purpose nor even the center of your life. This may sound harsh, but it springs from a true loving heart. Your mother struggles, but you too have been inflicted with a pain, hurt and sorrow. You too need recovery. A commitment to your life as a mentor, guide, leader and innovator is a path toward your own well being.

    There is only so much you can do. Time, medicine and therapy will determine your
    mother’s future. Your future is largely in your own hands. Understand this sense of balance, focus and reality. Give your love unconditionally and know that your mum’s fate resides beyond your control. From reading these posts you know she is surrounded by prayer. Well we pray for you too.

    Your life will continue, with a new dimension, a new sense of love and obligation,
    but your life is beyond the stroke ward, the sadness of seeing so much human frailty and seeing your own beloved mum disabled. All of that is part of you, and part of your wisdom now. It is not you. It is not your essence, but it something
    you transit, learn, share and grow from. Care for yourself. Be strong. Be of courage and you will continue to teach and inspire us.
    God Speed.

  • Hi Yaro,

    I had something different in mind when I received your mail…, apologies.

    Will keep your mum and you in my thoughts and prayers in these testing days. I hope she will recover soon and it it be the start of the next journey in your and her life. Keep us posted about her progress.

    All the best,

    James

  • Prayers being sent your way. You gave us good things to think about, but what is most important is being with your mom right now. Everything else will be taken care of and fall into place. Trust and believe.

  • My prayers are with you and your Mum. We’ve missed hearing from you, but fully support “family first”—your Mum needs you—”all” of you. Take the time you need to assist with her recovery. Big hug. Karen

  • Sending prayers your way. It’s rough to go through such times – been there when my mom passed from cancer. Very emotionally and physically draining. Hang in there.

  • My best wishes of light and love to your mother and to you.

    This is just another one of those life growth experiences that you have so often talked about, and which I know your already know…

  • Your Message
    Yaro, I’ve been there. It takes such courage and love to stay to be there, to stay there, and then to write such a heartfelt piece to let people know in a way so that we can learn from you. All the best to you and your mum. By the way, women’s brains tend to recover better from strokes than men’s. I’ve seen women totally lose their speech and regain it several times over. You never what her recovery process will be like, but I’ve seen women recover in ways that have surprised the docs.

    It’s so important that you are there with her, for her, and to be on top of the decisions to be made and make sure those decisions are in her best interest.
    Yes, you and your mum are in our prayers.

  • Yaro, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your mum. Stay strong.

    Great checklist to get through, not just for internet business, but for “all” business.

    Thanks for sharing at such at difficult time.

    -naima

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  • My prayers are with you.

  • Thanks for your heartfelt words.

    Here’s something you can do for your Mom. Read aloud to her. It’s likely that she can understand what’s being said to her. So find a fun book or an inspiring book and read to her. Your voice will be reassuring and it gives you something “to do” other than feel bad for her. Worse case scenario, you will have read an interesting book.

    My husband did this for me when I was in the hospital and it was the best. He would read until he was hoarse. We both enjoyed the story and it helped take our minds off the fact that we were both in a place we’d rather not be. Lots of love – and thanks for the years of inspiration. I’ve always loved that you were a “real” person – and this posting proves I was right.

    Blessings to you and your whole family.

  • It is wonderful that you are able to focus on what means the most to you. I am praying that your mum have healing and restoration. You are in my thoughts and prayers

    Love

    Karmen

  • Yaro having lost my6 mother to stroke I am so sorry to read about your mom. You have my respect and prayers sir.

  • Yaro –

    My family’s thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I too, faced a similar situation when my mom faced a liver transplant. Faced with “just a week” to live from her doctors, my mom soldiered on and lived seven months to a successful liver transplant.

    Practically every day and every night I sat at my mom’s bedside feeding, taking pills and “enjoying” her company. It was an awe-inspiring experience that taught me so very much…

    (You can read the story here: http://www.soccerclassroom.com/coaching-blog/my-amazing-mom-the-inspirational-story-of-just-try/)

    I hope and pray that your mom’s condition finds stability and comfort. All the Mac’s will be pulling for her!

  • Hang in there Yaro. Sending good wishes and positive vibes to your Mom.

    Just stay positive and keep in mind that everything happens for a reason.
    You and everyone around you will grow stronger from this.

    Given some of my own hardships… I know how difficult it may be day to day.

    Keep your head up. Best Regards.

  • You constantly show that you’re an outstanding person Yaro. Thank you for sharing. Be well.

  • Yaro,
    Prayers for you and your mom. Thank you for sharing your insights and your life during a difficult time. My dad is getting older but still healthy. I wish I was at a point in my business that I could spend more time with him. Right now I am still tied to my day job.

    Aloha and blessing to you and your family!

  • Hello Yaro,

    I want to let you know that i will be praying for you mothers recovery,she will be okay sooner than you think.just let us know as soon as she is ok.keep the flag flying my brother

  • Yaro,

    You are a wonderful son to be so caring towards your mother. Not all sons are like this so I want to encourage you in your new journey. You are already doing a fantastic job and I want to thank you for all that you have done to help people over the years.

    I am just getting ready to finally do my first product launch and I never would have been able to get this far without having found you and becoming one of your students.

    Interestingly, my web designer is also a student of yours and we met on one of the conference calls.

    Life always finds a way to show us our purpose and now you are giving something more than wonderful.

    You are giving your time, your voice, your love and your dedication to the one who bore you.

    You could not do better than that!

    Thanks for your shining example.

    Joy – the singer

  • Yaro,

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this challenging time. A few weeks ago, I discovered your Twitter account for the first time and read the news about your mom. I instantly went to her partner’s website to send positive thoughts and light that your mom will have a full and speedy recovery.

    I was so glad to see your questions about whether our businesses can run effectively without us. I recently attended a conference where all the speakers were proponents of creating sites around the personality of the owner.

    For the most part, I have disagreed with this strategy as a way to create a viable, sustainable, and at least semi-passive income. In fact, I was planning to write a post about this on my blog.

    While it is nice to know the person behind a site, I think as a culture, we put too much emphasis on celebrity and guru status vs. the underlying messages they have to offer. The personality adds interest, but their specific tactics and strategies are what can and should be modeled for success. So thank you for what I’m sure will be an eye-opener for many.

    Lastly, I’m sure you know that your decision to move to a magazine model was not an accident. I am glad to see it’s allowing you to spend the quality time with your mother.

    I will continue to surround you, your mom and family in healing light knowing that all is in divine order and all things are possible.

    Angela

  • Yaro, Thank you for sharing this practical wisdom drawn from your sad situation. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your mum.

  • Yaro, you don´t know me because I just joined your Mastermind program. This is the first time that I am reading one of your articles, because it is the first one I am receiving! It is so wonderful to know that such a beautiful person is behind all these amazing teachings! Every thing that happens to us is a mystery, and has a great teaching for all, as we can now see. Your mother has so much love inside of her, that she is giving us all this gift so that our consciousness can expand, thanks to her heart condition. It is such an opportunity for us all to learn more and more in unexpected ways. We are learning about life, unconditional love and business, and to think about our future possibilities. I just launched my blog after reading your blog-profit-blueprint. I still have no content, but I thank you so much for sharing with us your amazing knowledge.
    I would like to invite everybody else to visualize your mother returning to her normal life and being happy and alive. There is great power in visualization. I have seen astonishing results!
    Heidi

  • Yaro, I wish you mother Zahava a speedy recovery. Keep talking to your Mum, and hold her hand. Even if she can’t respond, she can almost certainly hear you and feel your touch, as my late Dad could when he was in a coma, following a sub-arachnoid haemorrhage. (We were wrongly informed that he would not regain consciousness.)

  • Lew

    Hi Yaro.

    I understand what it’s like when you have to be the one who steps up to care for a parent. I’ve had to do this twice, with both my mom and dad. My heart goes out to you, but at least you know that things here seem to be well in hand.

    I will take a few moments this evening to say something for your mom Yaro, and thanks for having the bravery to share this part of your life with us.

  • Hi Yaro

    I’m so sorry to read of these huge changes in your life and so sad to read of your Mum’s stroke. You are so right that none of us can predict what will happen in the future (which is a good thing I think), and you are doing what most of us would do, but with the added bonus that you have an income still coming in to help carry you over till you reach a time when you can and are able to put more energy that way.

    We’ve just flown home from Brisbane to Christchurch last night, from spending time on your beautiful sunny Gold Coast and before I went over, I thought of you and was keen to meet you in person, because you have been most helpful and inspirational to me. However I didn’t get an email away, so I just thought of you in instead.

    I will think of you both daily and know that your Mum has got a wonderful, caring, devoted son, whom I know is giving her the very best that she deserves at this most challenging time. You are amazing and all the very best.

  • Emma

    You are such a wonderful son. With your presence and love, I’m sure someone from above will be touched and bless your mom with a speedy recovery. On a side note, a close friend’s husband had a stroke two years ago. It was a difficult and challenging time of her life. Her husband recovered fairly quickly and is doing very well today. I hope your mom will have the same recovery too. Take care and stay strong!

  • My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
    I hope that you get many more fantastic moments together, and savour every one of them.

    My mother went through cancer a few years ago, and during her last weeks (it happened fast) I was stuck commuting 7hrs+ to a 7hr+ job in the city, so my sister ended up with the bulk of the bedside time, taking time away from her own family. At the time I was in the middle of a battle to keep my job in the face of workplace bullying, hence travelling so far to a location where I could work with decent people, but not having that time with her is one of the things I would dearly love to have had the chance to change.

    PS One of the things I’m grateful mum & I did get the chance to discuss was how I would know she was around afterwards. She told me to look out for a red leaf. The morning after she passed I went out to the balcony, and on the ground below it was a leaf unlike any tree nearby, and yes, it was red. It’s framed on the wall with her picture.

  • Yaro, my thoughts and prayers go out to your Mom and your entire family. This no doubt has been an experience that defys logic and understanding. I know from experience that this can be so. My mother suffered a massive stroke just over 5 1/2 years ago and over time we have learned to cope with the daily things we must do to try and help her enjoy life as best as she can under the circumstances. I would like to thank you for planting the seed in my thoughts about blogging. This also has been a long struggle which is also far from over.

  • Yaro, I will keep Zahava Starak in my prayers that she will recover from this. Thank you for sharing this event in your life, and stay strong as the person that you are. Your leadership and insight is greatly valued.

  • Hi Yaro,

    Sorry to hear that your mum is in hospital. I wish her a complete recovery soon.
    Also thanks for sharing your wisdom on setting up a business that continues to run without you.
    All the best Yaro

  • Yaro,

    So sorry to hear about your mom. Prayers are being sent your way.

    God bless,

    Karen

  • My mum (87y.o.) recently ended up in hospital. Thankfully it turned out to be far less serious than we feared (a collapsed vertebra) so I know something about the uncertainty and anxiety.

    My prayers are with you and your mum.

    Evan

  • Keeping you and your mum in my prayers. She is blessed to have a son who cares for her so deeply and I pray she experiences a speedy recovery.

    Love and hugs,
    Angela

  • There is nothing more important than being with your mother at this time. The ways of the world can wait for the needs of the soul.

    warm regards

    Carole Lyden

  • Yaro,

    My prayers and thoughts are with you and your mother. I wish her a healthy and speedy recovery.

    All the best to you,
    Anthony

  • Take care of yourself and make the time to recharge your batteries.

    Hope you mum gets better soon.

  • You are a wonderful son! Through her battles – your mum would be proud of you. Lots of love to you both. Nigel.

  • Yaro: My heart goes out to you and your mother during this trying time. You are both in my prayers.

  • Yaro, sorry to hear about your Mom’s condition. I hope she recovers soon.

    We went through similar issues with my mother-in-law this past year. Spent countless hours in the hospital with her, in emergency waiting rooms, etc. I probably drove back and forth to hospitals (mostly 2 hour round trips) 200 times or so in a period of 8 months. Fortunately, she did eventually get stable enough to return home and is home with us now.

    We know it really meant a lot to be there for my mother-in-law and I’m sure that your Mom feels the same way.

    Wishing you and your Mom the best.

  • Hi Yaro,

    I am sorry to hear this! Moms are such an important person in our lives and I cannot imagine what you must be going through. I am sure it means a lot to her that you are there by her side with her. You, your Mom and family are in my thoughts. I am praying for a speedy and full recovery!

    Hang in there and stay strong. There may be days that are a little harder then the next but it sounds like you are doing a great job!

  • Hi Yaro, so sorry to read this bad news. I will be thinking of and keeping my fingers crossed for your mum and you. She obviously raised you well and it’s fabulous how you’ve made time to be with her because I know many would have used the excuse of work to avoid it. Much as we love our loved ones it is hard to see them suffering and to spend time in hospital with them so you have made a wonderful sacrifice for her and I truly hope she can make a full recovery and spend more fun times with you in the future.

    The bad news aside you have raised some great point here which everyone who is self-employed needs to think about.

    If Steph ever needs help with headlines she can email me they are my favourite part of the writing process on my blog. And of course if I can help you with anything else at all just give me a shout.

    Stay strong, Annabel

  • Hi Yaro,

    My prayers are with you and your Mum. I know how devastating this sort of situation can be for everyone, just try and stay strong and positive.

    You are lucky you don’t have to really worry about work and the money coming in as most people I am sure would either have to go back to work or take time off with out pay. So you must be very grateful for all the hours and time you have put in to your blog over the years as now is the time you need it to reward you and it is.
    Best Wishes
    Venecia

  • God bless Gideon, your whole staff and your other blog writers for being there to support you through this.

    As for me, I’ll keep both you and your mum in my healing thoughts. Though it’s not tangible help, I really believe miracles can come that way.

    Sunni

  • Yaro, hope your family situation will improve soon. You and your Mum are in my prayers!

    Monica

  • Mr. Yaro you and Gideon have been a part of my prayers for a very long time
    I have learned a lot from you the BIG lesson is always over deliver.
    When I was young my Dad said I will take care of you now and when I get old you take care of me .
    In 1998 I got a call that dad was very ill I did not hesitate to go take care of dad it was the greatest reward I could get he went home to be with the LORD in 2000 and I moved back to California.

    Faith can be a power tool if we trust it and put into Action
    I will say a special prayer tomorrow morning I start my day on my knees in prayer
    GOD bless you and yours.

  • Yaro,
    I’m there with you. My mother had a stroke 3 1/2 months ago, that left her full left side disabled. I understand completely what you are going through, and how your focus is now on your mother, as it should be. Thankfully my mother just lost use of one side, and is not to the extent your mother is, but I do know what you are going through. After 1 1/2 months of recovery, she fell and fractured her pelvis, so we were at ground zero again, but this time with full bed rest, but NO nursing assistance (just me).

    May God bless your mother to recover, and may He bless you both with ALL that you stand in need of!

  • May God bless you with peace and your mother with strength!

  • Hi Yaro,
    Wishing you a speedy recovery for your Mum. May God bless you in this hour of test of patience.

    ~Seema
    India

  • Hi Yaro

    Hope your mom gets well soon. Me and my family’s prayers are with her :)

    Thanks for sharing your experience.

    The very best,
    Welly Mulia

    • Hey Welly, I was just on your site looking over your 4- month coaching program since my last coach fired me.

      Forgot to mention, Yaro, your Mom is going to get better and strong as ever – I just know it!! You’ll see.

  • Mother’s are our reason for being alive on the planet at this time, and the journey of the soul in this life is a priority we all need to face. Your entrepreneur’s journey now takes a more poignant tone!

  • Courage, patience and love will get you through this bad time. And you have all three,Yaro. My thoughts are with you.

  • hi Yaro, firstly, a big prayer/good wish/hug to you and your mum. But mostly, isnt it interesting how the ‘naysayers’ tell us that social media isn’t ‘real’ etc. And look how many genuine, heartfelt comments from truly lovely people you have received.And you’ve never met most of us. Keep the faith Yaro, your community really IS your community. x

  • So sorry to hear about your mum’s stroke Yaro, I pray she improves on her recovery and get back to normal soon.
    da
    I’m really impressed and challenged by how you have been able to make your business work without you, hope I will be able to achieve it too some day.

  • What you are doing to help you mum is great Yaro, may God bless you for it. And I wish your mum quick recovery. For your business working without much help from you, it’s really inspiring. Great work man!

  • Hi Yaro,

    My thoughts are with you.

    I was in Australia when my Mum had her first stroke and she’d had a second one before I could get back to the UK. I was still fortunate to be able to spend time with her for nine months after that before she passed away.

    Just do what you’re doing and spend as much precious time with your Mum as you can.

    Your business observations are as astute as ever and a powerful reminder to all of us.

    Take care,

    Steve

  • Yaro,

    all the very best wishes for your mum and the rest of the family. Not an easy time for you and we appreciate your posting…

    I know exactly what you mean though and it was really important for me when I started my business that I could have a business that fit around my life rather than trying to fit my life around my work. Getting to that stage of life where parents are at higher risk of falling sick was right there at the front of my mind!

    Sending all the best from the other side of the world!

    Cathy

  • Hi Yaro, Thank you for sharing your very sad news. I can sympathise with you as I myself had a mini stroke 2 months ago, just as I was getting started with my blog, at 38 years old fit and healthy this isn’t heard of that much……I’m now well on the way to feeling better as I hope and pray your mum will. Stay strong and positive. Karen

  • Hi Yaro,

    Stroke is one of the 3 most important cause of death and disabilities in our world. Our health care system is very effective, yet a lot is still to be done to minimize the effects of stroke.
    Neurologs and other medical specialists are working hard to enhance the diagnosis and the recovery of stroke. Especially the NINDS (National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke) in Washinton DC.
    But an easier way to reduce the burden of stroke is to inform people to let them know what a stroke is. People shall see immediately the effects of stroke: half paralysed face, loss of power of speech and so on.
    Time is the most important parameter in stroke care, in the first 4 hours after stroke onset, the chances of recovering are very high. Changes decrease rapidly afterwards.
    Therefore, it is very important that people can recognise a stroke and call EMS immediately.

    I think that in your position of profesional blogger , you have the assets in your hands to build the tools to gather people on the internet and communicate on stroke prevention.

    I wish you the best in your life, now that the worst has happened.

    Cyrille.

  • Hi Yaro,
    Have the faith in the almighty.

    Its impossible for anyone to think your mental stage in these days, you are going through. Hope and pray from almighty to give you enough strength and good health for your mom.

  • Hi Yaro,
    this is a very touching article. I do feel with you and your mum. I know what you are going through as I have experienced the same her just recently and still in the same situation; but I don’t live that close. My brother is their and he is taking care of thing every two weeks when in in and his wife does the rest while he out. I just got back and yes it hard to deal with those things that you have talked about.
    Keep up your strength – your mum needs you.

    Thoughs and prayers are with you and your mum.

    All the best for you and your mother

  • Kaz

    Being a long time reader of your blog, it sometimes feels like I know you like a friend, so to hear your sad news brought tears to my eyes.

    Situations like this are a true test of spirit and your spirit shines through your words.

    I wish you and your mum all the best.

    Kaz

  • Hi Yaro
    Sorry to hear the news about your Mom.
    You seem to be coping very well, and you have built a team around you so you can afford the time to spend with her until her recovery.
    A lesson to us all here, thanks for sharing.
    After all, who ever you are – you’ve only got one Mom!

  • Hi Yaro,

    Thanks for another good post. And I wish your Mom will get better soon. Good luck to you and your family.

  • Yaro – It is truly admirably how much you’ve been by your mum’s side during this time.

    She is blessed to have a son like you, and I pray in Jesus’ name for her recovery — and that God strengthens you guys to endure the time and that He eases your burdens and sends plenty of healing.

  • Hi Yaro,

    Thanks for sharing, i can see u have touched many people here. this article is one of the best, my prayers to your mother. Be strong brother “the heart believe in it that we shall overcome one day”

  • Yaro Thank you for your incredible bravery and leadership. Blessings to you and your family

  • Yaro,

    I pray for your mum’s healing and recovery. And I pray that God gives you the strength to provide your mother with all of the much needed support that you have been giving to her.

    Blessings,

    Annette

  • Yaro,

    Very EMPOWERING article. It help me put back into focus the important things in life – FAMILY! You are an awesome internet leader, but more importantly an awesome family leader. I pray that your mum has a healthy and speedy recovery.

    God bless you and your family.

    Regards,
    George

  • Hey Yaro,

    I wish your mother will be better very soon!
    It’s certainly not easy, so, receive my best wishes for both of you two!

  • Thinking of you and praying for you and your mum, have learned so much from you over the last few years

  • u ar a great writer, and i feel ur pain at this moment. i pray ur mother get up from her hospital bed.

  • Hi Yaro,
    Good wishes and prayers to your mother. I hope she recovers soon and completely. Thanks for this inspiring article. You continue to be an inspiration to us in so many ways!

    • Hi Yaro,

      I’m really sorry for you and your Mom.

      What are the doctors curing, please? The symptoms or the cause of her bad state?
      It may be dehydration. I’d recommend you to open Batmanghelidj’ book “, Water Cures. Drugs Kill”. You may find the answer there.

  • Yaro,

    Thank you for sharing at this difficult time in your life. Much love, light and Blessings sent for you and for your mum’s speedy recovery.

    All the best, Karen

  • You have such an amazing gift for finding your center and writing so naturally and in such a clear and organized way. Your talent was obvious before, but to see you in the middle of such a trying time and being able to share your thoughts with us in such an impactful way is inspiring. Thank you for keeping me focused and knowing what I am working for. I’ll be praying for your mom.

  • Your words brought the situation alive for me again. We went through a similar patch last year when my grandma suffered a stroke. Its quite a difficult task just sitting in the hospital. My prayers are with you and your mother. May she make a complete recovery.

  • Man, Yaro – sorry to hear the bad news and I wish your mom a speedy recovery although i know it will take time. I too will say a prayer for her.

    Also, you really have shown the importance of slowly but surely removing yourself more from the business and allow it to run as the machine that it was meant to be.

    Dwight Anthony
    Financially Elite Blog dot Com

  • Hi Yaro,
    Thank you for sharing your heart rending message. I began following you about 5 years or so ago hoping to start a blog and possible business over a similar situation. You see I am the mother of a severely brain injured child. I did begin a blog http://momofamiracle.blog.com but I’ve never had time to get many followers or do near what I dreamed for it because like you are discovering now i have a full time job as caregiver only my husband and I share this sitting literally by her side 24/7. I took Glideon’s video course thinking that since I didn’t have time to write maybe video-ing would be the answer. But sadly I’ve never had time to even finish the course. But enough about me…I want to share something important with you that might help your mum.

    We did hyperbaric oxygen (HBOT) for my daughter and while it didn’t by any means fully heal my daughter, it proved miraculous in many ways. The story is at her website under updates begin with the oldest first. http://www.friendsofsara.com. wlhile at teh facility, I met a woman who’s husband had a similar stroke as your mom. He did 40 treatments of HBOT then followed it with stem cell injections in China and he repeated the same with stem cells in Mexico the second time. He rode a bike called a quadriciser for all limbs at the HBOT facility. He went from zero and I mean nothing but communicating with eyes to talking and some independent moving and eating too. It can be done. The HBOT center is http://www.hboxygen.com and the owner’s name is Connie if you want to follow this up. I’m sure she could help you find HBOT in your area. She’s a wonderfully helplful person.

    If she”s having trouble swallowing you want to look into DPNS Deep Pharengeal Neural Stimulation and Vital Stim.

    I wish you all the best and feel free to contact me if I can be of any help. God bless and strengthen you both.

  • One of the great things about being your own boss is being about to take as much time off as you need. Family comes first. Sending kind thoughts and prayers your way.

  • Hi Yaro.

    What a great post? personal, yet a wake-up call for everyone reading it.
    The fact that your business can continue without you and fund your lifestyle no matter what is the real lesson here.

    When I was 16 my Dad was taken into hospital with a cancer that no-one had a clue about. He’d managed to keep the pain from everyone and he died that night with no-one at his bedside because in 1967 (in the UK at least) visiting times were very strict and you were not allowed on the wards outside those times. But even if we were, money was so tight and cars and taxis were for the well-off, so no family were in a position to be there.

    Four years later My Mother developed a brain tumour which was mis-diagnosed as ‘Bells-Palsey’ until it was too late. She was admitted to a hospital in London for ‘treatment’, even though none was possible. Again, access was a true dilemma as money was just not there for public transport costs. (No credit cards or instant loans in those days of course) But my sisters boyfriend had a car and on the second evening we went up in good time to be able to visit during the ‘allotted’ visiting times only to find an empty bed. When we asked if my Mother had been moved or gone to the loo or something, we were casually informed by this rather large nurse strutting the ward – “OH, she died last night, hang on, I’ll get someone to see you”.

    Not only did my Mother Die with NONE of her 11 children beside her, she was treated as just another number to be dealt with by the hospital staff who were simply hard and callous. To make matters worse, they had already done the autopsy/post-mortem and removed the top of her head so that they could remove the brain (Just to confirm that their rather belated diagnosis was right).

    These days, we are not only better off financially as a society, but we (through the power of the internet) can also find a way to keep finances ticking over when REAL Emergencies arise in our life that truly DO require our 100% attention. (Like your Mothers stroke). If your mortgage and lifestyle depended on you turning up to a Job each day, your mother might well have experienced the sort of loneliness you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy, let alone a family member.

    I hope your post really does impress on everyone who reads it, just how important the internet lifestyle can be, and how harnessing it now could be a true blessing in the future.

    I’m sure everyone will be mentioning the name Zahava Starak in their prayers, and I hope she makes a full recovery very soon.

    Pete.

  • Even when your Mum is out of it Yaro keep talking to her. The unconscious is still alert. So, let her know you are there and remind her of all the wonderful things she has and will have even more of.

    All the best.

    Rosemary

  • Hey Yaro your strength and forthrightness concerning your situation is quite refreshing to read. My prayers go to your Mom, you and your family. May she recover in God’s time. Also, may you and your family be given strength and patience.

    “As your days are, so shall your strength be.”

  • Yaro – have always admired your perspective on life – whether it be philanthropy, the time you went through your personal life threatening experience through today with your mom. my thoughts and prayers are with you and family.

    good things happen to good people

  • [...] An interesting email also arrived in my inbox this week. Normally, I quickly scan through automated emails from a lot of internet marketers, but on rare occasions if I have nothing better to do I’ll give them some attention. This week it was one from Yaro Starak, who probably was one of the first bloggers out there to make me aware of the potential for earning a full-time living from blogging. Turns out he’s had a bit of bad news, and now has had to give up the full-time job of managing a succesful internet business to take on a new full-time job of caring for his mother. You can read the story here. [...]

  • Being with your mum is the most important thing you can do now. I lost mine about six years ago, and I can’t tell you how much I miss her. I truely hope that everyone’s prayers and modern medicine will result in a speedy recovery.

  • We will keep you and your mother in our family prayers. You’re doing a great service for your mother and it’s inspiring to see how you’ve set your priorities so perfectly.

    It’s also such an incredible blessing that you’ve been able to establish a business that allows you to spend the time with your mother. Thank goodness for that!

    We’ve always enjoyed everything you have to share Yaro and we appreciate seeing this side of you. Best of luck through this trial.

    Blessings.

  • Hi Yaro,

    I am sorry to hear about the news about your mom. There are thousands of people like me who are going to pray for the well being and fast recovery of your mom. Stay with her and give her all the love and care you can. It will cure her faster than any medicine.

    Keep smiling and make your mom smile as well Yaro.

  • Hi, Yaro – I’m so sorry to hear about your mom’s situation. What doctors can do for people these days is amazing. I’m sure your presence is a comfort for her. We’ll all send you and your family warm, hopeful thoughts and prayers.

  • Yaro, I am sorry to hear about what happened to your mother. I hope she recovers soon and may you have all the strength you need.

    Take care and best wishes.

  • CFA

    Hi Yaro,

    I want to encourage you to be strong, my prayer goes with you and your mum. You’ve been a blessing to millions and I urge you to be strong in this difficult times.

    May God bless you & her, Amen!

  • My prayer goes to your mom’s speedy recovery. I know she is strong because she has a son like you. Take care of her and yourself Yaro.

  • inspiring story, thanks for sharing. Remember that caring about your own mom is worth more then a billion dollars!

    keep it up.

  • Yaro,

    Your mother is in our thoughts and prayers.

    I was in a similar situation last year, when my mother passed away. I lost both my parents within a span of 2 years.

    3 years ago, I got the same dreadful, terrifying phone call early in the day that my father had suffered a stroke. I was living in NY at the time, and he in India.

    By the time I reached India (nearly 36 hours later), he had lost his ability to communicate. Most of his body was paralyzed, and he had lost the ability to speak, and I never got to talk to him ever again after that.

    So cherish every minute you have with her, tell her how much you love her, and just be there for her – and she’ll *always* remember that you were there for her.

    May God give her the long life, health and the ability to recover, that he never gave my own parents.

    From one “only son” to another…

    - Ravi Jayagopal

  • Very touching story. I’ll include your mother’s fast recovery in my prayers.

  • My heart is with you and your mother. I spent the month of May in the US (I now live in England) looking after my 91 year old mother who had a series of heart attacks and wasnt’ expected to ever go home and live on her own again. She rallied and is now living with my brother (we recently elevated him to saint status) and we take things day by day. I skype her daily. Meanwhile, my husband’s mother (93) has recently started to decline rapidly. We don’t expect her to live much longer. They have both had great, long lives but that doesn’t take away the sadness of knowing they won’t be around much longer. It’s all very emotional around our house. I can understand completely, the all encompassing experience you are having and send you both love and prayers. Lots of hungs.

  • Nik

    Hi Yaro, I recently went through a similar experience and some of your articles here actually helped me get through that. Thanks for your writings, and best wishes from Canada.

  • Sue

    Yaro,

    Thinking of your Mum, you and your family at this time. Thanks for the honest blog you’ve shared with us. With the automated business you’ve created over time and the excellent contributors and team you have – its allowed you now to spend so much time with your Mum, and still be cashflow positive, which an ‘average 9-5′ wouldn’t do.
    Thank you for your questions at the end of your post, a true insight to what every entrepreneur needs to do to ‘remove’ themselves from their business and for it still to run without them.

    Again, thoughts and prayers for Zahava and you

    Sue

  • Yaro, you are an inspiration and representation of resilience. Thank you so much for still providing us all with valuable, insightful content in such a challenging time in your life. May all the wishes, thoughts and prayers, from me and from everyone around this world, combine and extend towards you and Zahava. Take care.

  • Dear, Yaro

    I read the prayers of so many visitors, you must be sure that your mother will recover one more I also pray for healing your mother and you can focus on your business again

  • Dear Yaro,

    May all that is meant to be come to be. Every mum-moment is precious, may you both treasure this time, for I’ll never forget the moment I lost mine. You’re both in my thoughts.

    Thank you for courageously tying something dramatically personal to you and giving sound business lessons as a result. Knowing I literally fell-offline for years due to my health, I decided to rebuild my name and business with systems and staff. I’ve come a long way by having great outsourcers, partners, etc. However, I lead, guide, advise, etc. on a daily basis. I’m thankful for my personal health now, but as this heart-wrenching post demonstrates, we can never take life especially of our loved ones for granted.

    My heart and tears are filled with empathy and pray for happy endings/beginnings for all!

  • I wish you and you mother all the best.

  • Wow, I am sorry to hear this Yaro. Events like this really do change us, and give ourselves a wakeup call. You certainly dont want to have it happen to anyone but when it does it certainly hits hard and fast. Its nice to see though that your hard work and effort of the past has set you up for an easier transition to really be where you need to be at this tough time.

    -Jean

  • t

    Hi Yaro, was really sorry to hear about your mum. Am thinking of you all. I’m very glad you’ve got such a supportive team (go Steph!) so you can in turn support your mum.

    And you’re right, it is a wake-up call that something like this could happen to any one of us at any time. It’s good to have at least thought about a plan for how to manage both personally and financially.

    Take care and all the best,

    Tara

  • Praying for you and your mom. The Lord loves you both so much and He is our Helper. My prayer is that He will draw you both close to Himself and give you comfort, strength and help in these days.

  • [...] type of model really sustainable? What if you don’t want to post? What if something happens? Yaro is tending to his mother who had a stroke. The last thing I’m sure he want’s to do is [...]

  • I’m sorry to hear about your mother Yaro. However, just be positive and everything will be okay. Everything happens for a reason and just do your best in whatever you’re doing.

  • [...] may remember back in June 2011 she had a fairly significant stroke, which I wrote about in The Day My Life Changed and again in My Most Challenging Year Part 1: When Family Tragedy [...]

  • [...] Just as I am writing this, what should come into my  mail box but a really soul centred posting which you must read. This brought tears to my eyes. It is a post from Yaro Starak a successful blogger and entrepreneur. http://www.entrepreneurs-journey.com/7290/the-day-my-life-changed/ [...]

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