Why People Struggle To Get What They Want

I was speaking to my home loan broker this week. I’m purchasing an investment property and he helps organize the loans to make it all happen.

My broker is good at what he does, but like many small business owners there’s a lot of latency in his operations. He was explaining to me how he had a huge database of people who had showed interest in getting finance, but he had no system for communicating with these people automatically.

I suggested he set-up an automatic follow-up email sequence, using educational content to help turn some of the prospects on the list into clients, without needing to manually follow-up.

As a result of this discussion we turned to what I do for a living and I showed him my blog, the courses I created to teach people how to make money online, my email newsletter, free reports, etc, that make up my online business.

During the discussion I mentioned how despite having so many customers go through my courses, very few have the consistency to put what they learn to use and make money.

I explained, as with most things in life worth striving for, very few people manage to achieve a result. We mentioned words like consistency, focus, willpower, motivation – a lack of all these things – that stop people from climbing the hill to the top.

My broker, who was once ranked 8th in the country for total loan transactions done in a year by brokers – so definitely an overachiever – made an interesting comment. He said:

The challenge when running a business is not completing the 80% of tasks you do enjoy, it’s waking up and getting the job done for the 20% of things that you don’t enjoy, which have to be done, which separates the successful from the not.

Taking action when you just don’t feel like it is hard. Finding a way to transform the task from something you hate to something you enjoy because it helps you experience a result you want (thus the emotional gratification that comes with it), is the trick. You need to restructure your conditioned response to the task, to anchor it to a desirable emotion that helps motivate you to get it done.

Clarity, Focus and Specificity

I had lunch with my mum this week. She was feeling extra motivated to grow her counselling business. She wanted me to list all the things she could do to realize this goal, so she could learn how to do it and then make it happen.

I started by asking my mum what she wanted. She explained she wanted more clients, she wanted to teach workshops and start selling an ebook she had an idea for.

As we talked I had to repeatedly ask her “why” and to “get more specific”. I also consistently asked her to explain to me what is the problem people have that she wants her product or service to solve.

Eventually we reached a conclusion that she wants to build her base to at least 10 hours of client work per week. This is a good short term goal, one that meets her most pressing need, cash flow stability.

It took at least half an hour to drill down to this specific outcome. In order to meet the goal of at least 10 hours of booked private counselling sessions every week, she needs to set up new marketing channels to bring in the clients.

I won’t go into detail about what my mother is going to do. The point is that she needed coaching to reach a clear and specific target and see what options she has to get there. Her goals before that were general and centered too much on abstract things she wanted to do without tying them into specific marketplace needs. She needed clarity, focus and specificity.

I’ve written countless times before on the need for clarity and focus on what you are trying to achieve and how to get there. I honestly believe it’s about figuring out specifically what you want, what tasks take you there, what order they should be done in, and what tools and knowledge you need to complete the tasks. Goal setting and chunking, in other words.

Discipline And Conditioning

Although people who fail to achieve their business goals are quick to blame the system or the market or the niche or the business model or countless other things, in all cases I believe it stems from issues of mindset.

The reality is that all the things that might be wrong with a business that could stop it from succeeding are changeable. It’s the people who are making the decisions and taking action (or perhaps NOT taking action), that lead to the result.

As Leigh Peele wrote in a recent article on Entrepreneurs-Journey, she believes that all entrepreneurs reach success basically through a process of trial and error.

That’s a somewhat scary thought on some level, but if you really think about it, it’s true. There is no magic pill, and even with good education, proven systems, and the right steps, you are still “running a test” whenever you do something yourself for the first time.

All experience begins as a trial, and in almost all cases when you do something you haven’t done before, you make errors. Therefore success is the result of trial and error, and if you don’t have the mindset to carry you through the ambiguity, you will give up before you have the chance to make the right decision. You probably won’t even start in the first place.

I wrote in a recent article that good timing is simply doing something often enough to be in the right place at the right time, often after many times NOT being in the right place at the right time. Consistency wins.

You need to ask yourself a question and be really honest about the answer:

Have you ever committed to one specific goal, which you are clear about how to achieve (you either know how to do it or know what education you need to learn how to do it), and then stuck with it for a long time, adjusting as you need to?

Have you ever really done all the tasks that are supposed to lead to the result?

Sadly most people know what to do, they just don’t do it. The reason is a lack of belief and confidence. That stems from ambiguity of purpose. If you know what you really want, and that desire is based on passion, and you can chunk that outcome into steps and you’re willing to change when things aren’t working, you have the necessary ingredients.

If you anchor passion to daily activities that lead to a goal, you can’t help but do it. It actually causes you pain and frustration if you don’t. That’s the kind of motivation that leads to outcomes.

If you don’t inherently feel a connection to what I am saying now, then you need to have a good hard look at what you are doing and why you are doing it. Ask yourself those questions above, and see if you are truly committed on all levels to your goals. You can’t have too much clarity and focus about what you are doing, especially when it comes to the emotional drive behind your actions.

Here’s to you finding true purpose born from true passion.

Yaro Starak

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  • Great post. I especially love the quote about finding the motivation to do that 20% of the job that you hate. It definitely helps to have specific goals and make a “to do” list the night before to deal with those pesky chores.

    I’m not a morning person, so I find that when I start on one of my easier tasks for the day, it gives me a sense of accomplishment and motivation to work on those less desirable tasks. 🙂

    • The “to do” list is not something I considered doing for the regular day-to-day tasks. I am going to give it a try tonight and see if I can make those boring tasks less of a headache.

      Thanks for the tips!

    • You’re right. And the problem comes when you don’t get the 20% the first day… Then you need to spend 40% of the next day doing stuff you don’t WANT to do!
      Let it drift for one week, and you no longer have time to do the stuff you actually like! 🙁
      I’ll keep this quote somewhere where I’ll see it often!
      Now – it’s sunday morning here, and I think I’ll grab a cup of coffee before cleaning the house… Or perhaps I should do the cleaning first? Nah – I’ll just read some more blog posts for now. 😉

    • Hi Yaro I agree with Pipes, the morning is a rush around with chores and by the time you settle down you dash madly around trying to play catch-up. You summed it up here:

      “Have you ever committed to one specific goal, which you are clear about how to achieve (you either know how to do it or know what education you need to learn how to do it), and then stuck with it for a long time, adjusting as you need to?

      Have you ever really done all the tasks that are supposed to lead to the result?”

      Almost two years online and I have set the goal to grow a list – reading and listening to advice given ages ago. Sadly neglected a chore that should be done right from the beginning.

      Good advice as always,

    • Pipes T – I actually do the reverse. If I have a stack of more difficult things to do (these are primarily tedious, “must do” things that are time sensitive or just hang over my head until I get them done) and a stack of more desirable things I prefer to do… I will start doing the more difficult first and when I’ve got a few of those accomplished, move to the more desirable tasks as a reward.

      Using this strategy I make my “to do” lists and get great satisfaction checking things off and I manage to accomplish both the tedious and the desirable as well.

  • Man that was an Awesome post Yaro. One of the things I have been trying to put together are the thigns that make the successful, successful. This post says it all, and more. Funny how the 80/20 rule comes into play with your broker. I think you picked the right guy fo the job. 🙂

  • Typo…

    “I started by asking my mum want she wanted.”

    Want should be what…

    On topic. Very motivating article Yaro. It really feels that you can take over the world once you manage to complete the hardest 20% of your work. Tackling the rest becomes a breeze.

  • Hi Yaro,

    Here’s something you might find interesting. I setup a web shop for technical writers a few years ago and put in all the things I *thought* technical writers wanted.

    But… what they actually bought were Star Wars toys

    It seems they went to the shop, had a peek, and then got a few presents instead.


    They already had enough technical books at the office but needed something to lighten the mood, thus the gifts.

    Google Keywords/Market Samurai et al will never tell you technical writers are interested in Yoda character sets.

    You only find out by trying 🙂


  • Brilliant post. I like calling it the ‘just freakin’ DO IT’ syndrome, because if you do not, it never ever gets done.

    Love Ivan’s experience too – got a great giggle out of. He should also provide byte bats (nerf bats) so techies can beat up their computer without any fear of breaking anything. 🙂

  • I think that’s part of it. If you really want to get what you long for you have to struggle first in order to have it for long as well. Everything in life, career, and business have to go through a lot of tough times because that’s how you’ll learn and it’s not as easy as you might think. You cannot just have all you want because you have to sweat first.

  • “Sadly most people know what to do, they just don’t do it”. I agree with you. But why it is so? Actually if we want to do something, we must have the qualifying qualities in us (like ability to focus, to be consistence and passion etc). These people are lie a river in which someone can wash hands if there is water in it. Your post is like water in the river witch encourages every body to be benefited from it. Great post and well done.

    • “Sadly most people know what to do, they just don’t do it”.

      Knowing what to do is not the same as knowing how to do it. There’s a lot of information out there that can tell you what to do, but very little that actually shows you how.

  • Wow, amazing article. If you have it in you to simply keep pushing on through to the other side, and you make it just once in your life, then the next time you do it, although the work doesn’t get easier, it becomes easier to stay on course, maintain focus, and sail on through.

  • You did an excellent job Yaro.
    Although I don’t agree with the definition of success = trial + error.
    It could also be the result of an organized work in conjunction with proper guidance from an expert.

    Thank you for enriching our knowledge and thoughts.


  • Yaro,

    Having a focus and clarity on your goal is very important. Many times, I fall short on these, I have too many ideas, too many projects and not able to focus 100% well on each tasks while still working and all. No amount of excuses can solve our problem, only we can.

  • Thanks Yaro. I’ve read several book similar to what you’re saying here and I totally agree that changing your mindset and attitude are key.

  • Whoa — sounds EXACTLY like something i would write. It’s almost bizarre. Anyway, yeah! Speaking my mind, so not much to add here man! 🙂 — that said, i can attest to the pain of not following your passion with consistent action — don’t let it happen!!!!

  • Yaro,

    Almost exactly one year ago I purchased your Blog MasterMind program. It was the start of a new life for me!

    In August this year, I quit my job after 5 years, and have started my own SEO consulting business here in Brisbane.

    In my third month of being in business (Nov) I’ve already made as much income in the first week of November as I did in a month of being an employee, and I still have 3 more weeks to go!

    The 20% I hated was my job, so by removing that hindrance from my life, I’m now happier that ever before!

    Thanks mate for putting together a great product and being a superior inspiration!

    Write On!

    Curtis Chappell
    Quantum SEO Solutions

    • Curtis. I’m impressed with your bold choice to just put all your energy behind your SEO business! I too have a blog but am still working full time as a graphic designer. Working both ends is sometimes very difficult. Takes courage to take the leap.Congrats to you. Glad to see you are making it work for you.

  • So true! For years I wasted my time wanting to write and going nowhere. It wasn’t until I set specific word count goals and forced my butt in the chair until I met those goals that I started making progress. I’m not published yet, but I am 40,000 words into a novel and I know where I’m going.

  • Great reminder of the importance of having – or quickly creating – genuine clarity of outcome when you’re attempting to take action. After all, you’re pretty unlikely to hit a hazy target – you can’t even aim correctly at it!

    The need for specificity – chunking down, as you correctly put it – is also very high. Going from “grow business” to “10 client hours a week” is a great example of how to chunk down effectively.

    Vague goals are almost worse than no goals, because they creates the illusion that you’ve clarified things when you really haven’t.

  • I agree with much of what you say. To succeed in any business they need an automated follow up system. Email is great, a personal touch might be a little better.

    Most people are not consistent when trying to achieve their dreams. They try for a couple of months then quit. Then need a good mentor, a good system, and the their own WHY they are trying to achieve their dreams.

  • I can relate to your post totally Yaro, I’m a relatively new marketer, working my little socks off but not getting the results I want yet. I know what I have to do about it but have been putting it off because it’s the ‘hard bit’ – the 20% bit that I won’t enjoy doing. Better pull my finger out!!!

    • Yes, that final and critical 20% is tough for me.
      I do it online somewhat (not 100%) regularly, but less so in my consulting business.
      probably because I’m more passionate about my online biz, than in chasing consulting clients (although once I get them I’m passionate about helping!

      What I find is many other people don’t even start though. Forget the critical 20%, too many people never take the first step!

  • Yaro, this is a great post.

    I especially like “success is the result of trial and error”, which is so true!

  • Great post this is exactly what I needed to read to keep focus and have the right mindset to continue on. Using the 80/20 moto to getting things done and also implementing a daily productivity hour or two ask rich stated in Internet business manifesto.

    Thanks again
    To everyone success

  • Great article. I could relate to Yaro’s mother because after deciding to leave the business I was running with my ex for 6 years in corporate production after he filed for bankruptcy, I realized I had abstract and many business ideas of unclear and generalized pattern without clarity / focus.
    Currently in Seoul, I have started a business meetup group where ex-patriates discuss business ideas, share info and give advice. I also submitted a business plan to a non-profit ex-pat educational centre where if chosen, I can attend evening business classes on regulations of setting up a corporation in Korea.
    While I went through two years of exasperation and feeling of failure since i had put so much effort into the previous company I had funded its start-up funds of, I have to remind myself it gave a lot of real life experience that I might not have been exposed to if I journeyed through the same path as all my classmates.

  • Great insights, Yaro!

    In addition to facing pain and frustration when we don’t work towards our goals daily, I think that staying on track can also lead to pain and frustration, but that is when we can dig our heels in by choosing to focus, believe, have a positive mindset, and the confidence needed to carry on.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic!

  • Procrastination and fear stops us from obtaining our goals. As in battle, you must make a decision (whether right or wrong) and act upon it now. Indecision and inaction will get you killed.

  • I can really relate to this post.

    I have had 2 successful businesses and lost them both recently after a nasty personal situation. I now find myself starting a 3rd business and while I have been very successful in the past, it is now hard to do the things every day that need to be done for this latest venture to be successful.

    Refocus. That is what I need to do.

  • There’s always a system within us that prevents us from winning our goals, and we need to identify those before we go on pursuing our drams. Otherwise our efforts would all be in vain. Those who have succeeded in life have become aware of the things the prevents them from succeeding, and they have been wise enough to go against the limiting attitude that interferes whenever they work on their goals.

    Recognize that noisy voice in your mind that shouts impossibility, and be oblivious to it. 🙂

  • Ugh. That’s all I’m gonna say. 🙂

  • Thanks for the reminder. If I really wanted to drive my coach crazy I would have to hear this from him every day. I am going to tape myself reading this and listen to it every day instead until I truly see the results I am looking for.

  • Great reminder Yaro that I need to do the most important 20 % of all my work which I do not like to get pretty good results.

    To be successful in what I really want to achieve I must reorganize my daily time table so that the most important 20 % is done first before the remaining 80 % .

    Having said that , I must put that time table into action , otherwise it only looks nice on paper…

  • Well said, Yaro!

  • Great article … some reservations though about that “20% you don’t enjoy”. My observation is that many people don’t really follow their passion … they choose businesses they believe will make money and never actually get around to the things they love.

  • Thank you for another enlightening post to encourage all of us to live our authentic self and live up to our full potential with the hard times and dedication committed to our passion. I too have witnessed the failure of clients not reaching goals due to the 20% failure to complete the remaining tasks.

  • Yaro,

    This is a great post with so many great points! I really like the point about the 20%, it’s amazing how easily that 20% can looking twice as big as the 80%. It’s all about getting the right frame of mind and attitude!

  • Hey Yaro,

    Great post! It’s funny, I just got through listening to The Servant Leadership Training Course by James C. Hunter, and at the end of the lessons he went into how only 10% (if he is lucky) of people listening to his program will actually take action on what they learn. You know, that is so true and has been true for most of my life. Things are different now however because I have found my reason to become better. Now, I find myself doing things I never thought I would have done before, like being here putting in my two cents, is a drastic change to the person I was just less than a year ago.

    I believe you have to find your “Why” to make any kind of significant changes in your life. Once you have your ‘why’, focus on it, keep in plain view, this will help keep all your challenges and frustrations in your peripherals, that way you know they are there and can remove them from site without taking your eye off the prize.

    Thanks again for the great post. I don’t think this message can be said enough.

    Ernest Morse
    “Dream Bigger. Become Better.”

  • Your broker definitely is right when she says that the failure comes from not being able to do that 20%. For me I definitely believe it is all about being honest with yourself, if you can do that, and follow the right approach like you illustrate here Yaro, then anyone has a real shot at being where they want to be. I know at times I’ve been in the situation where I know what I need to do, but I just don’t do it but I like to believe that I am getting better at eliminating those times.

    Till then,


  • hey Yaro – as usual you’ve outlined common sense that really isn’t very common.

    Last year I started my offline niche site, did a pre-launch, discovered the need, then travelled the country promoting my business and building up a great membership site.

    Since I’ve been back home I’ve struggled with focus (personal drama drama drama didn’t help) – but reading your fab post – I’ve looked back over my success on that trip – and yep, you’re right… it was focus and knowing what my destination was that made it so successful.

    I knew exactly what my goal was…

    The purpose of the trip was to visit all the businesses within my niche and end up with 125 annual members. I got to 101 members – and would have made it if the trip wasn’t cut short with personal stuff (no excuses tho).

    In that time I didn’t get any emails about new, whizz bang systems, no IM meetings, no Facebook, no forums – just total focus. I only subscribed to 3 ‘guru’ lists. I took a few important ebooks and reports with me – mostly consisting of your entire collection and a couple of other essentials. Nothing to distract me from my destination. I’d spent 3 years ‘learning’ – it was time to ‘just freakin’ DO IT’ (thanks Barbara Ling).

    And it worked.

    The system is…

    1. put into action what works
    2. do it again,
    3. and again,
    4. and again….

    It got to the point where my conversion rate was over 90%.

    So yes, I can totally vouch for your post… you are right on the money… as usual!

    Cheers for reminding me of the not-so-common sense – have just cleared the crap off my desk and am back on focus.


  • It’s sometimes said that successful people do what unsuccessful people are unwilling to do. It helps to have a big dream and motivation to do that, too.

  • love how you end your post Yaro Stark Motivated. It was truly motivating. Now I need to find some Clarity, Focus and Specificity to determine exactly where I want to go and what I need to do to get there.

  • This post was a good insight to what I’m in right now. I’m in a “dip” since I just started blogging. We are “emotionally motivated” in everything we do, even the logical stuff. So I try to visualize the resulting good emotions that I’ll get by doing something. If that outshines the emotions of dread for a task, then I’ll wind up doing it. In fact, I’ll sneak niches in time just to do the things I’m emotionally motivated to do.

    This was a good reminder of things I’ll keep in mind. I’ll bookmark this and read it again.

  • I agree completely. At the moment I am in the trial and error phase of getting more readers. That is multiplying my readership many times – not just adding a few now and again.

    Not sure how to do this yet – I know that some strategies that are promoted don’t work.

  • Cy

    Too often success is under our noses and we are not able to pinpoint it, in fact it is so close that it goes by unnoticed. This habit can lead to a devastating future career and so unaware we cheat ourselves so easily out of something that could have been the perfect solution to our financial problems.

    Here is a great article about this topic http://homebasedbusinesses.biz/how-to-eliminate-being-the-negative-thinking-expert

  • The part about trial and error is something I’m finding out about. I started with an idea that I sat on for a while waiting to figure out every aspect of it. But when I began to take action (as the result of a previous post I read from this site) it began to be clear that I was thinking erroneously about certain parts of what I was trying to do. I didn’t see my mistakes until I tried something. It’s about trial and error. But unless you try something you can’t find out what the errors are. That’s progress.

  • Thanks Yaro for the timely reminder and excellent advice.

    I like the way you combine success = trial + error, with focus and clarity.

    Without them, I’d have gotten nowhere.


  • Hi Yaro. Wise words indeed. It’s not enough to ‘get it done’ You have to do that on a constant basis. These are my takeaways and I acknowledge that consistency (or rather lack of it) has been my downfall. Thanks.

  • I agree with you that setting clear business goals is imperative, as well as focusing on the most important tasks that will help you arrive at that goal(s). While mindset is important as well, I believe that if one is pursuing something strictly for money and not because they enjoy it, that mindset bears little on their lack of success.

    Yes, find your true passion! However, it can be quite difficult to sift through the many interests and hone in on one’s true passion. Here’s to finding your passion.

    ~ A

  • It is so true. So many people go to courses and do not apply what they have been taught. There must be so many trainers that get frustrated. Still, the rich get richer as they aplly what they learn!

  • Your Message – Yaro, that was an excellent post. You touched on so many points. I agree completely that you need to be focused and drill down to exactly what it is that needs to be done (whether we actually like the task or not). All the necessary steps need to be done, with focus to create the desired outcome.

    I fully concur that many people do tend to blame the market, niche or system, or basically anything else they can turn into the scape goat, when it simply boils down to the person in the mirror and as you say, most importantly their mindset. Too often, people don’t take responsibility for not being disciplined.

    Again, thanks so much for the well written post.


  • Yaro, that was an excellent post. You touched on so many points. I agree completely that you need to be focused and drill down to exactly what it is that needs to be done (whether we actually like the task or not). All the necessary steps need to be done, with focus to create the desired outcome.

    I fully concur that many people do tend to blame the market, niche or system, or basically anything else they can turn into the scape goat, when it simply boils down to the person in the mirror and as you say, most importantly their mindset. Too often, people don’t take responsibility for not being disciplined.

    Again, thanks so much for the well written post.


  • Hi Yaro:
    I’ve been reading your emails for quite some time now, but this is my very first comment.
    I love your writing. Most of the time, you arrange ideas in a smooth logical flow, which makes the reading of your articles very enjoyable. I’m not into “how to make money online” (yet), (my newly launched blog is about organic and natural lifestyle) maybe I never will be, but I still enjoy the value you’re adding to the blogosphere. Thank you!
    The reason I was prompted to comment today is the title of your article. I love the matter-of-fact advice you give in this post, but with your writing I always feel there’s more than this practical advice – there’s that philosophical element lingering between the lines. Dunno, maybe I’m just imagining, but that’s the vibe I get from your blog in general. So when I read the question you posed here today, the answer that came to my mind was a Margaret Young’s quote that opens my “about” page. And here it is:
    “Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.”

    Have a splendid weekend and keep up the great work!

  • Yaro first thank you for admitting what I discovered a short time ago about people and their follow through. Most professionals don’t talk online about that.Also yes the majority of successful people in ANYTHING failed the most. Seth Godin opened my eys to that years ago.

  • Yaro here are other issues: if you’ve worked all your life for someone else you have essentially ignored the error part of the trial and error. Many have made money from employment and kept employment even though errors were made. And others were perfect emplyees who overworked themselves with passion and found they were not rewarded. And I’ve seen both people with the same issues and quandry about finding that one subject that rocks their boat.

    For some lack of follow through is a “self esteem” issue. It’s not that folks have not been conscious and committed. I meet people everyday who have worked for others for over 15 years straight but they don’t have the confidence to set up the necessary infrastructure to do it for themselves. Some self help gurus say that a person changes when they have “inspirtional dissatisfaction” ; when they are fed up they will change. What are your thoughts on that?

    One thing I see is that many(not all) gurus who are successful have a “kick but” attitude to get you to succeed and I wonder if it is real love(agape love) for human kind, or because it helps their bottom line(money).

    And then there are the gurus who tell you to slow down and make mistakes and you won’t get this stuff for three years and don’t expect to make any money right away. Tell that to a person enough times and they’ll go seek a ready made infrastructure called a “job”.

    I’m not going to reflect on my personal experience but I can tell you that as a person with various experiences in self employment and in the work world that one must consider themselves lucky to find a real “mentor” and confidant who truly cares about your success; enough to weather the storms with you and to give you guidance along the way.

    The good mentors I’ve met don’t want you to make all the mistakes they did and they want you to be successful because your success ensures their success. They realize you will make mistakes but hopefully not the same damn mistakes others have made. Your mom is lucky to have a blood relative who truly cares about her and wants to help her.

    I have seen so many forums where the core issue OVER and OVER is: what is my passion? what is my life purpose? what do I really like to do. And I’ve seen the multitude of books addressing this issue; but what I have not seen is anyone really delving deeply into this issue(other than occassional long posts) and helping people to understand why they are lost on this issue and bringing clarity to it without an ulterior motive of making money.I don’t know the answer for everyone; but it is an issue worth exploring in depth and finding out why people have these problems. Or perhaps is that something that should only be addressed by another marketer wanting to make money off of an issue.

    In any case I really don’t want to get in a line by line debate here with anyone over what I’ve said ; but just read it if you will and let me know what were the things that held your mom back concerning finding her niche. If a counselor had issues around this narrowing of a niche, G–d help the rest of us.

    This is written in good faith; please don’t attack my statements. I would just like to hear ideas on the subject of finding your niche or passion explored in depth. I’d like to hear honest feedback from those who still have problems with finding what they are passionate about and or if they believe it is possible and the real honest core issues which keep them from delving into success online. I think your mom may be the one we need for a therapy session. Counseling is needed in this area desperately.

    Hope you or your mom will respond. She doesn’t have to reveal her topic but it would be helpful to know what the obstacles were.

    • Hi Gail, you can find posts that do this on my blog (and many others) for free.

      • Thank you Evan…your blog posts seem like they will really help me. Great blog!

    • Hi Gail, I hope you won’t get disappointed that I’m not the person you’re expecting to reply. I just want you to know that I share your thoughts here. Speaking from personal experience I’ve discovered that success in any endeavor is a self discovery. We may not know where we are good at, but through venturing any goals that comes our mind, we will get an idea of where we need to be. Life presents many possibilities, we just need to open ourselves to them. 🙂

  • The Universe must be setting me up because I was just talking to my friends about this very thing this morning. It was kind of scary reading through it and having some answers put right in front of me that I was asking just this morning. I think I owe you a thank you, Yaro, for writing this post. I am definitely going to share this with the person I was talking to this morning.

  • I can procrastinate on a goal for awhile before taking action. I have to step it up and just do it. I’m getting better. I just have to continue growing my mental strength and take action.

  • Like most fledgling entrepreneurs, taming my inner critic and keeping myself focused on the most critical tasks are so important to my productivity and success. It would be so comfortable to simply work all day on menial tasks and procrastinate myself into circles. But you’ve thrown the elephant out into the center of the room. Thanks for that! New mantra for my wall: remember the 80/ 20 rule.

  • Focus is where I lose it. I have decent clarity about what I want and how to go about it. Its just committing to the tasks which I find tough.

  • Hi Yaro,

    Another good post. My biggest problem is probably consistency. I’m a full-time university student you see and at the time of writing this comment, I’m about to start my final exams before I graduate (fingers crossed).

    I’ve settled to writing for an hour a day, submitting my content, counting the number of backlinks I get and seeing my rankings rise. Realising that I’ve been feeling too lazy at times even to do that has opened my eyes to how much more discipline I need in everyday life.

    I like the comment from your home loan broker. Things that we don’t like doing should really be done first. That’s a great way to practise metacognition I think: catch ourselves prioritising certain things before others, then realising that we’ve only put that thing to do later for reasons that are usually pretty petty when we know that it should be done first.

    I’m going to try and do the 20% of things that I don’t like doing first before I do the 80% of things I enjoy doing later. It’s not a bad philosophy to live by.



  • I am new to internet marketing and surely learning it the hard way. Yes it takes a lot of trial and error before you see success.Very aptly said!

  • Great post man very true u seem like a really smart dude

  • Great article, as always, Yaro!

    I agree with you, or your friend, about the 20% that you don’t want to do and that often being the deciding factor between success and failure. I’ve been building (largely affiliate based) websites for almost 15 years and have done really well with it, but I’ve lost count of the number of friends and clients who have shown an interest in my (seemingly) “automatic” income, and wanted a piece of it for themselves, so I’ve helped them to get started and they haven’t even finished off their websites. They get so far, probably 80% of the way, and then STOP. And quite often, it would only be a day or two’s work to get them finished and ready to sell something. It’s like some kind of weird mental block that stops them from jumping that last hurdle.

    This might sound obvious, and it certainly isn’t anything new, but when I work on a new project, whether it be a website, or a standalone marketing campaign, the first thing I do is write down, with a pen and paper, what I want to achieve and the steps I need to take to do it. Then I simply work through the steps until it’s done. I only do about 3-4 hours of concentrated work per day, time when email is switched off, the phone doesn’t get answered, there’s no Facebook, no Twitter, no Farmville (hah, just thought I’d throw that in – I’ve never even been on those silly FB games, honest guv!), no nothing that would get in the way. I just work through my list, get what I need to do done, and then I can pretty much please myself for the rest of the day. More importantly, I finish everything I set out to do, absolutely every project gets finished.

    It kind of bamboozles me when I read the IM forums and how people are struggling to get anywhere, because it’s actually REALLY EASY to make money on the Internet and it’s far easier now than it was 5 years ago, or 10 years ago.

    To simplify things entirely, all you really need to do to get started is this…

    1 – Create an offer.
    2 – Go where the people who will be interested in your offer go.
    3 – Initiate a response from them.
    4 – Nurture your relationship.
    5 – Make your proposal.

    And all of that can be done with a simple opt-in page, an autoresponder and a few friendly emails. It doesn’t matter what market you’re in, or what you’re trying to sell, it works every single time.

    I’ve been running Internet marketing workshops locally lately and there’s a 19yo kid who is knocking up 3 or 4 of these “funnels” every single week and all he’s doing to attract leads is setting up Google alerts for each one and then posting a few messages on forums and blogs a day. He’s going to make a fortune from it, I can tell already 🙂

    The thing is… there’s no hurdles to jump when you keep it simple like that. Find an affiliate offer, create an opt-in and a series of educational emails around it, then use Google alerts to send targetted prospects directly to your email account.

    While everyone else is procastinating because they think they need to learn about SEO, social media, and all of that carry-on, you’re doing what really matters…. creating offers and presenting them directly to the people who want to buy what you’re offering.

    Simple is usually always good 😉


    • I’ve found your response extremely helpful, Lesley-Ann. I never knew about google alerts but always wanted a setup to search the net for anything new about the Magdalen Islands. You have helped me immensely. Thank you!

      Wynn Currie

  • I can recommend a great book for anyone struggling with identifying their own true purpose (it isn’t always clear). The book is called “True Purpose” by Tim Kelly. I’ve heard him speak, and his work is first rate. He started off coaching regular people on how to identify their true purpose, moved up to CEOs and the like, and now concentrates on working with world leaders so as to effect the most change in the world.

    Check out the book.

  • The way He told story in the beginning i was thinking that this is just a story not a article related to its heading. But the way he conveyed Message was Great!

  • Thanks for another great post Yaro! When you are first starting out and going through the initial struggles this is a great reminder. After that I think you realize another failure gets you one step closer to success!

    P.S. Your Become a Blogger Program is AWESOME!!

  • you never failed to delights your readers with excellent contents Yaro.
    cheers.. this article one of it. simply worth thousand times reading it over and over again.

  • JTP

    I love some of the point in your post.
    Like these,

    “success is the result of trial and error” and “most people know what to do, they just don’t do it.”

    It’s true that most of the people didn’t do enough and hit enough wall before they learn to cross over and reach the destination.

    Nice post Yaro~ 🙂

  • The quote that springs to my mind when I read the article is “Good judgment comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgment.”

  • Good motivational stuff Yaro. As an entrepreneur, you perhaps need to remind yourself of your points more than most – because it’s damn toug at the beginning!

  • Yaro, Outstanding post. Persistence and focus are major contributors to success, and the fact that success depends on being willing and able to be persistent when you don’t feel like it is something I always want to keep in mind.
    Thanks for your insights.
    Steve Stillwater

  • Great blog, Yaro! It reminds me of Murphy’s Law, except in reverse. If something can go right, it will eventually if we keep doing it over and over. One ounce of persistence is worth a ton of talent. Thanks!

  • Yaro,
    This post was like a birthday present for me. Thank you for pretty much always nailing down exactly what I need to hear…

    The 20% you (and your friend) are describing, I call my “frog of the day”. As in the quote from Mark Twain ~ “Eat a live frog every morning, and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.”

    @Vince – thank you for the book recommendation – that will be my next read since I’m one of those people who has so many diverse ideas and interests that I find it near impossible to focus!

  • Good timing for this post! I’m trudging very slowly at the moment with some of the tasks that I don’t really enjoy now. Your post reminded me to look at the big picture that I have a goal to achieve and this is just part of the process.

    Thanks for sharing, Yaro

  • Very good post and true! I know it is difficult to do the things we “don’t enjoy” to do!

    Unfortunately the main weakness of mankind is the average person’s familiarity with the word “impossible”. He knows all the rules that will “not” work!

    We have the power to control our thoughts and when we can realize it; we will do everything enjoyable!

    Thank you for sharing,

    John Mak

  • Yaro, this is an excellent post. As a writing coach one of the most frustrating things I see is that people simply will not start writing. it seems to be the same in most businesses that people start. They don’t do the things necessary to be a success. That’s why it is so satisfying to find the rare person who actually does the work and succeeds. Having a goal and moving with great determination toward that goal is what creates success.

    Thank you for making this important point again.

  • So true. Thank you for sharing. This is exactly what I needed to regain my focus. Now, I just need to go about doing that 20% of stuff that I really do not like doing.

  • Yaro,

    Your mum is lucky to have you as a son! You are wise beyond your years and I am enlightened every time I read your blog! All the things you said in your post are correct and it is good to be reminded of them. I think I will print it out and but it on my bulletin board so that I can remember your wise words.
    Thanks, as ever.

  • Hi Yaro,
    Again another brilliant article. Just supposing that everybody that wanted to take action, but found an excuse not to take action, actually got off there butts and did what they said they were going to do. I think the world would be a better place. I am not just talking about business either, this can apply to all aspects of life.
    So Get Off Your Butts, there are no walls, just challenges.

  • This is why I look forward to receiving your e-mails! They always spur me on. I know what you mean about focus. Just kinda made my website because it was something that I enjoy but it’s starting to get some interest and I’m really starting to see it as an opportunity.

    Now I need to get focused and decide what I want to get from it and how to go about it. Thanks matey.

    Craig Cole

  • “Taking action when you just don’t feel like it is hard. Finding a way to transform the task from something you hate to something you enjoy because it helps you experience a result you want (thus the emotional gratification that comes with it), is the trick…”

    Great post, Yaro! May I add the word “tenacity”? I have to tell myself that by holding fast to my goal and the reasons for it, by being determined to continue doing what I am doing, and by having firmness of purpose, the seemingly unattainable must materialize. As for the emotion involved, if we persevere in what we believe is the right thing to do at the time, despite any drudgery, the good feelings will follow. Positive action on my part, regardless of how irksome the task might be, will generate a positive spirit and feeling. To me, it seems then that the way of transformation is to place the David of my persistent actions before the Goliath of my feelings at all times.

  • Yaro, I couldn’t agree more. I find it interesting how consistently people who coach others on success come to identical conclusions.

    I teach people how to build wealth and have broken the entire process down to seven specific steps. Surprisingly, the first two have nothing to do with finance and investing but build on the exact subjects you touched upon here.

    In other words, growing your wealth has very little to do with money and finance and everything to do with what you discussed in this post.

    And that conclusion is based on more than a decade of teaching people this stuff and walking the talk myself.

    Great job!

  • Awesome Yaro, I loved the personal stories that you used to demonstrate your points.

    Exactly right, it takes consistency and doing the work we don’t feel like doing. Your broker is right, it’s not always about completing the 80% of the tasks we enjoy… Often it’s those 20% that are actually the money making tasks, but we’re too wrapped up in rest to get to what needs doing.

    Thanks for this!


  • Yaro, For several months I have read your e-mails and gone to the different sites that you suggest. Actually, you were the start of my search to try to figure out how I could use the internet more effectively as a marketing tool for my mental health counseling business. Now, I have so many ideas flying around in my head that I don’t know where to start. You are right. I have to pick one place and just start.
    In addition, I am pretty much social media illiterate so I feel that I am playing catch up. For example, the other day I could not for the life of me figure out how to upload my picture from my Logitech webcam to a social media site. I spent hours trying to do this when I really should have been doing reports. I need to find someway to learn the very basics. Unfortunately, I have not found the appropriate avenue that begins at a low enough novice level.
    Yaro, you are so insightful and I really appreciate all the knowledge that you share.

  • I don’t think people really know what to do. In addition to not knowing what to do or how do to it they don’t know where to start or choose not to start because they can’t come up with a “great idea”.

    They don’t have a “framework” for going from step 1 discovering what they really want or what gets them excited and then going from there to create something that has a chance. After that its all head games, strategy, execution, marketing, and trial & error.

    The Lack of Belief and Confidence also comes from low self-esteem. The low self-esteem is usually from not working towards a purpose or goal or deep rooted issues. Listen to Brian Tracy’s The Psychology of Achievement CDs. Great Stuff. Many well known entrepreneurs say this is one of the best programs on success.

    Bad Habits are also a really big contributor to not getting what you want. Read the Compound Effect by Darren Hardy.

    A good place to start is by reading some of the Profiting From Your Passion Books out there.

    Here are the books I got some value from:

    – Career Renegade by Jonathan Fields
    – Screw Work Lets Play by John Williams
    – Sections of Escape from Cubicle Nation – starting on page 61
    – Chapter 5 in Good To Great – THe Hedgehog Concept
    – Certain sections in 4 Hour Work Week
    – some of the Barbara Sher books – she has lots of exercises, some seem a bit odd


  • Outstanding. Your perspective is well expressed [as always] and undoubtedly accurate. It all begins in one’s thoughts. Modeling successful systems and practices and applying them towards clearly defined goals and creation of plans to their achievement affects a path by which to do so. One must yet commit to traveling the specified path for its potential to be ‘released’ in the form of desired results.

    You always make great points, Yaro. This is no exception.

  • To be a bit contrarian. It is fun to see some of the business people commenting and blaming their clients for not following through.

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  • Tee


    WOW!! It’s been a long while since I’ve spent time reading your articles. You are absolutely amazing. I wanted to cry after reading this post because I really struggle with consistency regarding starting a business. I’m a walker and I just completed my 5th marathon on October 17th hoping that the discipline and consistency I have when it comes to walking will transfer over to me actually starting my business. Walking 26.2 miles is a goal that I set for myself and then I do what needs to be done to finish the marathon, but I’m completely stuck when it comes to starting my business. I’m going to read your post over and over again and discuss it with my inner circle until somethings clicks for me. Thank you so much for such a no-nonsense post. You definitely gave me something to go into deep introspection about. Keep blessing others with you infinite wisdom and I wish you continued success in all of your endeavors.==Tee in Maryland

  • Tee


    WOW!! It’s been a long while since I’ve spent time reading your articles. You are absolutely amazing. I wanted to cry after reading this post because I really struggle with consistency regarding starting a business. I’m a walker and I just completed my 5th marathon on October 17th hoping that the discipline and consistency I have when it comes to walking will transfer over to me actually starting my business. Walking 26.2 miles is a goal that I set for myself and then I do what needs to be done to finish the marathon, but I’m completely stuck when it comes to starting my business. I’m going to read your post over and over again and discuss it with my inner circle until something clicks for me. Thank you so much for such a no-nonsense post. You definitely gave me something to go into deep introspection about. Keep blessing others with your infinite wisdom and I wish you continued success in all of your endeavors.==Tee in Maryland

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  • Thanks a lot man, this post helped me. 🙂


  • For me the perfect post, have just attended an internet workshop in brisbane by Andrew and Daryl Grant to reconnect with that vision and sense of purpose that is my goal. Wondering what’s been stopping me and i guess it was partly a sense of disbelief in the straightforwardness of the process, the ability of a simple system to achieve consistent results. Your post shows that the risk is in not taking consistent and adaptive action to win through to success as we have defined it. The main guarantee we need is that we are going to work to make each step of a proven process effective.and overcome the 20% of perceived obstacles that could frustrate progress..

  • So true. That 20% just follows you around wherever you go – it’s there at the back of your mind going “look at me! look at me!” and you know it’s there, but you spend more energy ignoring it than doing something about it.

    I have written out more “what I want and how I want to achieve it” lists than I care to remember. Maybe I should dig them out again (somewhere) and start asking some harder hitting questions.

    So easy to float around while time goes away.

    Time to anchor myself down now. Thanks.

  • You are absolutely correct. Most people dont accomplish their goals is because they are usually behind the results. But if the “process” is not what they like and doing it just for the sake of “results”, then failure is imminent.

    I work as a web developer and actually just work for the sake of money. So to throw resignation letter on boss’s face and be on my own, I tried doing Internet Marketing. Built some websites doing keyword research, built backlinks, etc. Though the sites were doing well.. But the interest to carry on fizzled out after few months.. Thats because I was just behind the money and didnt like the process of building the web pages and backlinks(in the areas which I was not interested in), day in day out.

    A few months back, I have started to concentrate on building internet assets on what interests me.. Now I happy working all day and night and the outcome is also remarkable..!

  • You need motivation and dedication to get things going. No one said it will be easy but, cliche as it is, it will be worth it. I agree with the focus and the right knowledge in order to succeed.

  • Yaro
    I haven’t commented in a while, but your title grabbed my attention. This is a great post to read first thing on a Monday morning here in Florida as I ponder a few business decisions that have been presented to me because of actions that I have taken over the last few weeks.
    I said it to my friend and my daughter the other day…mediocre action beats perfect contemplation every time!

  • Hey Yaro, agree with the post. I really like what your broker said about doing the 20% of what you don’t want to do but is necessary. This is how the most successful get things done. One person I know gets up early in the morning and focuses on what they know they need to get done in unpleasant yet necessary tasks for their business to grow.

    I also agree with anchoring passion to get things done successfully, once you accomplish something that you know needs doing, you get good satisfaction from it. It shows that you have a good reward system and if most people concentrated in a proper reward system, they would get what they want.

    Dwight Anthony
    Financially Elite Blog dot Com

  • A skill that you must, and will develop over time, is self discipline. Once you make the decision to start, whether a business or any project for that matter, you have to make a commitment to see it through and learn to develop the necessary disciplines to achieve the desired result.

    Many people simply go into a business with unrealistic goals and high expectations. They dabble for a little while, easily get distracted when something that appears better comes along, and lose site of their goals, especially during the early stages.

    Delayed gratification comes with a price, and a skill that the average person doesn’t naturally have and must develop!

    Excellent post!

  • Great post Yaro!
    It’s really a matter of consiistency and persistence as you’ve pointed out, a lot of people are not suffering from lack of information about what to do, it’s a lack of motivation that cripples success. It’s definitely not as easy as it sounds, but it’s worth it. Most times it’s the doubt of whether what we are doing will eventually pay off that brings in the lack of motivation.

  • You article hit a little too close to home for me, since I am CHOOSING to read this and take the time to comment instead of really doing the things that I should be doing. I think I’ll justify it by saying that I’m learning how to better myself which will work out better in every area of my life.

  • Fabulous stuff! I think where I run into trouble is not knowing priorities. I’m great at big-picture planning, but then I get bogged down in the little stuff and everything has the same weight. I don’t have enough experience to know what is really going to contribute to my success, and what is busy work.

    I think this is where a coach comes in handy.

    Thanks for a great piece — I’m off to tweet it to my friends!

  • I think your broker different made a wise comment about getting the things done we do not like but are necessary to achieve our goals.

    – Robert

  • Yaro,

    I think you really need to start a self-improvement blog. You are very good at explaining the psychological aspect of entrepreneurship; you seem to get to the underline causes and give good advised to address the causes. I wrote a blog post about ‘creating our freedom in our lives’ through self-determination that touched on self-doubt, trusting and relying on self, having a permissive attitude, discovering what can do, and etc. Thanks for the post.


    • Coming soon enough Eugene, thanks for the encouragement 🙂

  • I love this Yaro! “All experience begins as a trial, and in almost all cases when you do something you haven’t done before, you make errors. Therefore success is the result of trial and error.” I’ve experienced this time and time again. It’s very easy to have paralysis of analysis because you feel like you just don’t know enough to take the first step for fear of making a mistake. But if you power through and make those mistakes (hopefully not too costly) you end up learning so much more than if you just read about it. Thanks for this encouraging post!


  • I must agree with Eugene. I was just having this discussion with Michael Port last week. Well articulated. Thanks for the post & being passionate about what you do, I will pass it along.


  • Here is the problem, you can be blogging on something that you enjoy doing but nobody will notice it online though you have a good and unique content. When it happens like that there will come in the pain and frustration because you have been blogging so that people can view it and take action. Here comes the hard part of the work which is “marketing”. Whatever you do or however you do it online, without marketing you are doing nothing. Marketing is everything online.

  • It’s surprising to realize how much the parts of our tasks that we hate doing most slows down your progress. We always have it in ourselves to procrastinate things we don’t like to do but it’s all about buckling down and facing it. Like taking a bad medicine, there’s no getting around it if you want to see positives. Sometimes, you may even have work on stuff that’s totally different from where your passion lies but you have no choice if that’s what your customers/readers/patrons want.

  • “Finding a way to transform the task from something you hate to something you enjoy because it helps you experience a result you want (thus the emotional gratification that comes with it), is the trick. You need to restructure your conditioned response to the task, to anchor it to a desirable emotion that helps motivate you to get it done.”

    So true, and that’s where VISION comes in. If you are aligned with the great feelings of your vision, and are committed to it, it propels you to do the things that are not as interesting or fun. Connecting regularly with your ultimate goal(s) is key. Thanks for your work–I really enjoy your approach to things.

  • I find myself in utter amazement sometime with how people are. I have always been an early riser and able to get most of what needs to be done before 11 am. That has always given me the time to do what I would like to do as well as making sure everything else gets done. I wouldn’t say I am an over achiever I just grew up in the mind set if you get the tough stuff done first you get to chill later. Make the push and get what you need done. I don’t understand how people can just not do it and take care of themselves and job security. No wonder companies don’t give out as many benefits, everyone is looking for a handout for the least amount of effort. Where has the pride in your job gone.

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  • What an extremely insightful and informative post.

    I am in the middle of setting up my first blog and although the general installation and design etc is sorted out I am finding it really difficult trying to decide what my cornerstone content should be, which is stopping me from actually writing anything.

    So, I’m now going to figure out what I’m trying to achieve, specify what I want, list the tasks, put them in order & figure out what tools & knowledge I need.

    Thanks for untangling the stringy mess in my mind.

  • The dilemma underlying the premise of this post has always made me chuckle. “How do you know whether you are making progress toward your goal when you don’t know what the goal is?”. In other words, does it really matter in which direction you go if you don’t know the end destination? Agreed – Clarity and focus are absolutely critical. Great post to remind us all

  • Passion leads to work free zone. Where you do work but its not work to you. Its life.
    Thanks. Wonderful article.

  • Yaro, this is a good post. Everything you have said is true. But I think a person’s capacity is also important. Not everyone is capable of getting what they want. This could be due to finance, time, lack of ability, other committments, wrong location, wrong time and many other things.

  • WOW! It is like you are listening to the talking going on in my head…I am feeling like I am stuck at a place where I know I need to do more; just not sure more of what. And your comments about it being tied to belief is poignant. Thanks for making me take a good hard look at myself as I review my purpose for doing my business.


  • Nice one Yaro.
    You talk sense!! It is all down to the person. Not everyone can get what they want. Its how you apply yourself in gaining knowledge in order to get what you want.

    Money, location and current personal situations are other factors that can make or break it.

  • Very Excellent and insightful blog. After reading your blog yaro I would like to say that I really like point about 20%. Thank you very much.

  • Hi Yaro!
    From my perspective people don’t want do what is necessary in order to achieve what they want because they don’t realize that they are victims of their paradigms. And as you try to open their mind to this truth, and as you want to bring them more awareness on it, their subconscious takes immediately action and protects them – blocking them – from every kind of activities as:

    – implementation of amazing teachings and learnings;
    – choose to systemize what already work really well for many successful people;
    – change their unrewarding sentimental relation in a better one;
    – build a database of subscribers and respect the commitment to follow up them with news, teachings and valuable informations;

    Because their subconscious mind wants protect them from succeed and it wants that all the things remain always the same! Constant protection function is what prefers to do us archaic mind every time we face a challenge for our lives!

    This is my personal experiences as personal trainer before and as a laser coach currently…

    Thanks Yaro for sharing your true and authentic passion and your oneness to inspire people to change their lives taking consistent and focused action 🙂

    My hand on my heart,

  • Renise

    I just wrote a piece today on my blog about fear and doubt. Coming across this post is just awesome and fits in with what I write today. I practice Buddhism and IMO it should be required to study some Bhuddist principles and meditate. Whe you talk about the mindset, discipline, focus, etc, these are all borrowed from Bhuddism. The mind must be released before someone can truly pursue their dreams. The mind can really hold you back unless you learn to control it and not let it run away with you.

  • Fantastic post, Yaro. My problem has always been sticking with a plan through thick and thin- if things don’t come easily to me, I usually ditch them and go back to the easy route.

    Recently, though, I’ve made a commitment and have really been doing everything I know I need to do, even when it’s not fun. It feels like I’m finally on the right track. Thanks for the affirmation!

  • Everyone who wants to succeed in whatever he/she is doing needs a coach.

  • Very accurate, however I think the issue of not ‘getting it done’ also has to be looked at by the individual case because if the issue is rampant throughout all aspects of a person’s life, then they will likely require more advice and guidance than saying, “Just do it” to them. The following article is quite interesting. It discusses procrastination and how it plays into our lives on a daily basis whether it be large or small scale. http://www.newyorker.com/arts/critics/books/2010/10/11/101011crbo_books_surowiecki

  • Yaro,

    Good post! I blog and teach on management and leadership topics so I tend to study successful people from all disciplines, including famous people. Two common factors are that these successful individuals made more than a few mistakes in their lives and more importantly they refused to give up on their plans. They keep on persevering, despite the mistakes or setbacks they experience.


  • Awesome post Yaro! I so believe that Clarity gives you Purpose and the determination to do what it takes to make things happen.

    The entrepreneurial mindset and characteristics of successful people is one of my passion areas I write about on my blogs. I love some of the success quotes about this area and what they reveal, even some of the funnier ones –

    “An entrepreneur tends to bite off a little more than s/he can chew hoping he’ll quickly learn how to chew it.” ~ Roy Ash
    “The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary.” ~ Vidal Sassoon, Donald Kendall
    “The road to success is always under construction.” ~ Lily Tomlin
    “I couldn’t wait for success, so I went ahead without it.” ~ Unknown
    “I have failed over and over gain in my life and that is why I succeed.” ~ Michael Jordan
    “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” ~ Thomas Edison
    “Entrepreneurs are risk takers, willing to roll the dice with their money or reputation on the line in support of an idea or enterprise. They willingly assume responsibility for the success or failure of a venture and are answerable for all its facets.” ~ Victor Kiam

    I love the depth in your posts Yaro. Keep up the great work…


    • Most entrepreneurs do everything they can to reduce risk and ensure success – thinking, researching, getting feedback. I think the idea that people should just take risks is inaccurate and quite possibly very silly.

      • Yes indeed, Absolutely! The great majority of successful Entrepreneurs have mastered doing their preliminary research (keyword, market, competitors etc) to assess where they focus their next attention.

        And once they do, they ACT and DO…

        Together with their “hard” tech/intellectual/analytical skills, they’ve honed their so-called “soft” savvy intuitive/sensing skills, and then know what Actions to take next…

        And that’s where the “Risk Taking” comes into it – moving forward, taking the chance and risk taking to see what the venture brings up…

        Or the other option of just sitting on indecisive butts and contemplating for a bit longer… and again a bit longer until everything is just right… and it never is just right… And then the opportunity is wasted, and never sees the light of day…

        Risk taking Entrepreneurs assess quickly and switch to the direction they need to take.

        With Risk Taking – it’s totally an individual choice, so there’s no “sillyness” involved, unless the individual chooses to be silly about it.

        Everything is CHOICE and that’s the wonderful thing about it all.

        You Choose! You Create Your Reality…

        It’s ALL about being on Purpose, Authentic, in Integrity, Truth and Honesty, following Your Passion, and Choosing “HOW” YOU CHOOSE to make Your Own “Thing” happen.

        Here’s to EVERYONE here ACHIEVING that!!!



  • Thanks for the great information Yaro,

    You gave me the ingredient I needed in order to succeed. I was completely blind about the 20% of the things I have to do in order to succeed.

    During my career I have always avoided doing things I don’t like with the excuse that they were not for me. This resulted into learning a lot about what I should do but end up doing as little as I could.

    I now realize that excuses will not help me to achieve what I want in life, so I’m going to take actions and move out of confort zone.

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  • Great post Yaro. It’s my first time over here and I cannot believe the quality of the content on this blog. Very impressed. James Hughes

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